Emotional rollercoaster rides

Emotional rides....up and down.....they aren't really that funny...nor fun. How come does I have to go through such up and downs......breathing in and out exercise.....knowing that I am breathing like I am feeling too? I could pinpoint 2 causes of the emotional rides...or the thoughts that are associated with it.

First is to do with myself relating to my mother, career....

Second will be with a opposite gender.

Is this going to another process of recovery or just another routine.....another yucky routine? Only God has the answer for me to find out. I have not idea why now. What is the under-running determing factors. I just believe and have faith that God is in control and that this is not due to my negligence or whatsoever. Perhaps a swift solution will be appreciated though. Mind over heart may be very effective however this system has its weakness. All emotional expression will be learnt and be processed. Processed by the mind and it will be engaging and much are relying on how much and where do I learn the knowledge from. How can this be reliable? Via the Word of God is one source and also with the Holy Spirit's guidance.

White hair the evidence of a over-used brain? Perhaps though....yup I should have more white hair then...grey hair lines..... Well there isn't much I can do now but to focus my time and effort on things on hand. Without a career, ministry will be a double challenge. Double amount of faith. Perhaps I am begining to believe that my time is better spent elsewhere. Perhaps I should consider too that my emotion energy is better spent on someone else. On the God that is loving. This will not be a decree or decision. This will be subjected to further review. Sometimes I just feel like quiting...or giving up completely on this area of my life. Let me not take charge...neither be concern of it.. or affected by it....but not being affected by it, does it means no emphasis on it? Perhaps there can be emphasis however priority is always God-wards. God first policy. God centred life. Well that is the source of all resources. Well something will still need to be done. Dealing with emotions, dealing with what holds me back, defining God's best mate..in terms of needs and wants, God's needs, God's wants, My Need, My want. Let all the list of items be of rejoiceful to You.

How to get her to commit

How to get her to commit

By Steve Hamilton

Confession: during my dating youth, no matter how much I liked a girl, no matter how much I wanted her and just her exclusively, I’d never tell her that purely for fear of looking weak and pathetic. If we were ever to move beyond the vague, undeclared status that characterizes every relationship in its early phase, well, that would be up to her. Most guys think this way.

The problem with this strategy is that sometimes, a guy likes a woman so much that he’d rather not wait for her to initiate The Talk. Or, if you’re like me, you’re over 30 and generally cranky and impatient, so you’d like to know where things stand before too many months of amorphous pseudo-commitment go by. The challenge is to share your feelings in a way that will help you get what you want and won’t make you seem like you’re groveling and/or desperate. Here are some tips to keep in mind.

Never just assume you’re exclusive

This should seem obvious, but guys can still be presumptuous and make all kinds of embarrassing mistakes. “I was seeing this girl and I changed my Facebook profile to say ‘In a Relationship,’” admits PJ. “And she was like, ‘Who are you in a relationship with?’ I was like, ‘You!’ I could tell she wasn’t exactly happy about it.” The lesson: You have to get her to say “yes” to the idea of dating exclusively before you are in fact dating exclusively. This brings us to our next piece of advice…

Make sure there’s a good chance she’ll say yes The conventional wisdom is that women are always ready to have a boyfriend. And maybe that was true during the Eisenhower administration. But in the present day of Facebook and the near limitless possibilities of online dating, it is just as likely a woman wants to have what is euphemistically known as “having fun.” “Be really careful if she’s just finished a long-term relationship,” says James, a chef. “Or if she doesn’t return your phone calls right away. If your calls are going right to voicemail, and she doesn’t call you back for like eight hours, she doesn’t want you to be her boyfriend.”

Don’t go overboard

The guiding principle in asking a girl to be your girlfriend is to not appear desperate: No matter how good your intentions, you may never recover from it. “My boyfriend bought me a necklace and literally got on his knees and asked me to be his girlfriend,” says Shelia, a web designer. “I said ‘yes,’ but it was a little much.” Even less dramatic overtures can still feel over the top.

“I was at dinner with this girl, and I took her hand and said ‘You know I’m not seeing anyone else,’” says Zach, a lawyer. “I thought we’d have this romantic moment, but she just looked at me like I was crazy.”

Bring it up casually

Given that overboard gestures might make a woman uncomfortable, consider doing what most men do best anyway: asking in a more laid-back manner. Make sure the venue in which you’re asking is mellow as well — no fancy dinners, no propositions in front of family, and so on. Remember: You want to be in the kind of circumstances where her saying “no” won’t leave you feeling like a dolt for an extended period of time. “I think while you’re walking her home or driving her home is good,” says Eric. “That way you’re not stuck at some restaurant with this giant rejection hanging over you if she says no.”

So how should you cough it up? A simple “Hey, I’ve been wondering whether we should date each other exclusively. What do you think?” should work just fine. It reveals your intentions, and yet leaves the door way open for her to say no thanks, she’s not ready for that yet. Another natural segue is if introductions will soon be in order — say, she’s meeting your friends and you’re wondering if you can say she’s your girlfriend. Or consider my friend Rebecca’s story: for around six weeks, she’d been dating this guy who was on break from grad school. “Then one weekend he was about to leave to go back to school,” she recalls. “And right before he left he said, ‘By the way, when I tell my friends about you, can I call you my girlfriend?’ I loved that!”

Consider ending the relationship if she says no This is a good idea for two reasons. First, there’s nothing sadder than hanging around a girl who wants you a whole lot less than you want her. Remember high school, when you were in love with the girl who only wanted you as a friend? Well, it’s worse, since you’re getting enough relationship crumbs from the table to keep you involved, but not so few that you’re moving on with your life and trying to meet someone new. Second, by moving to end the relationship, you force her to consider life without you… and she has to decide if that’s doable for her. Women are stereotypically the ones who use this tactic: “Marry me or I’m out of here;” “We need to settle down or I need to move on,” etc. And the only time we realize how much we love and need them is when they’re out the door.

So learn from women. If you’ve done everything else right — you’ve asked her casually, you’ve made sure all the signs that she likes are there, and she still says no — tell her “I think you’re great, but I’m interested in something more serious.” You might leave with a heart that heals fairly quickly. Or you might get a call from her within a week or two, asking if when she tells her friends about you, she can call you her boyfriend.

Steve Hamilton is a New York City-based freelance writer.

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Victory in Knowing Christ

People who live in the same time at the same place differ in their opinions in what it means to have a good life. Some will believe that having a good life is about finding and enjoying as much pleasure as possible in a lifetime. Others will suggest that a good life is about being good to others by helping them in their troubles. As in all things, our thoughts should not be concerned with what the world says is good, but what God says is good.

Consider some of the great heroes of the Bible. Abraham, Moses, David and Daniel are just a few examples of mighty men of God. Each had difficult times, but all of them saw the incredible victory of God in their lives. They are some of the greatest examples of how we should be living our lives. While all of these men have different stories, all of these men have this in common: they knew God, and they sought to know Him more.

Whether in poverty or wealth, these men of God always searched for God, so that they might know Him. Jim Downing says, "Knowing God is the relationship in which He delights. Inviting Him to share every experience in our lives is the secret of getting to know Him better daily and in progressively challenging situations, and in any crisis He allows." We have triumph in this world when we trust in God and abide, or dwell, with Him. And when we are abiding with God, we come to know Him. To know God means we will know victory, in addition to the many other wonderful gifts He gives us, such as hope, love, and faith.

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