“What If You Are Not Sure If She Likes You”
If you’re not sure if a woman likes you, it meansonly one thing:
You haven’t advanced enough.
According to my “Smart Dating Course”, dating is likepassing a traffic light at an intersection. (My green light theory.)
When you come to an intersection with a traffic light,there are only three lights you can get – a green light, ared light, or a yellow light.
The green light means “go ahead”. (She likes you.)
The red light means “no”. (She’s rejecting you.)
The yellow light means you’re not sure.
But as a smart Dater, you DO NOT want to see a yellowlight. To a student of the Smart Dating System, seeing ayellow light just means you haven’t been advancing enough. Itmeans you should have kept driving through the light to the nextintersection until you see a red light or a green light.
Why? Because until you actually advance through theyellow light, you will NEVER know if it’s going to turn intoa red light or a green light at the next intersection.
Even getting a red light is better than getting a yellowlight, because then you can MOVE ON with your life. Stayingwith a yellow light, on the other hand, will be a waste ofyour time.
So how do you use this analogy in the real world?
First of all, ALWAYS, ALWAYS use the flirt-test as away to advance to the next light. Flirt and see if sheflirts back. If she does, you know it’s a green light.
Secondly, you also want to keep moving in physicallyand taking things to the next level. If you’re holding herhand, then stroke her hair. If you’re stroking her hair, thengive her a kiss…and so on…
Because until you grow some balls and ADVANCED FORWARD,you have no way of telling how much she likes you back.
Monday, July 26, 2010
How To Tell If She Is Really Flirting With You
“How To Tell If She Is Really Flirting With You”
A few readers have written me because they donot know when a woman is flirting with them. So todayI’m going to teach you a way to find out with a womanis just naturally friendly with guys or if she’s reallyinterested in you.
Pretend she IS flirting…and take her bait.Flirt back a little bit more than she is flirting,and see how she reacts.
If she flirts back even MORE, then there’s aBIG chance that she has been flirting with you allalong. In that case, keep advancing and flirtingmore and more with her. Rinse and repeat untilyou are all over each other.
But if she doesn’t notice you flirting backor if she doesn’t respond to it, then I am sorry tosay that she only sees you as a friend. In that case,go back to the basics and attract her from scratch!
http://www.datingsupportcenter.com/datingarticles/how-to-tell-if-she-is-really-flirting-with-you/
A few readers have written me because they donot know when a woman is flirting with them. So todayI’m going to teach you a way to find out with a womanis just naturally friendly with guys or if she’s reallyinterested in you.
Pretend she IS flirting…and take her bait.Flirt back a little bit more than she is flirting,and see how she reacts.
If she flirts back even MORE, then there’s aBIG chance that she has been flirting with you allalong. In that case, keep advancing and flirtingmore and more with her. Rinse and repeat untilyou are all over each other.
But if she doesn’t notice you flirting backor if she doesn’t respond to it, then I am sorry tosay that she only sees you as a friend. In that case,go back to the basics and attract her from scratch!
http://www.datingsupportcenter.com/datingarticles/how-to-tell-if-she-is-really-flirting-with-you/
How To Make Women Comfortable Around You
“How To Make Women Comfortable Around You”
Yesterday we talked about how it is hard toattract women when you’re sending out a dangerous vibeto them. Today I’ll show you how to make womencomfortable around you.
1) Have social proof.
Go out with female friends. If a womansees you hanging out with cool people, she will thinkyou can’t be too freaky.
An alternative is to meet women at house parties.If you are invited to the party, it means you are probablynot an axe murderer!
2) Advance slowly and only take small steps.
Take things slowly and fish for her “returningsignals” before advancing to the next step!
*Always* use the flirt test!
3) Act like a challenge.
If you act like a challenge and keep teasing awoman, she will focus on whether she is good enough foryou or not, not whether you’re a freak or not.
4) Get rid of any creepy body language.
REALLY work on making your body languagesmooth and relaxed. The more frigid you are, the moreof a “freak” you will appear to be!
5) Build deep rapport with women.
Build rapport with women before you reallyflirt heavily with them. For some tips on how to talkto women, check out my report on conversation at:
http://www.datebeautifulwomen.com/conversation.pdf
6) Emphasize on things you have in common with the woman.(Common friends, hometown, etc)
If you and the woman both know a mutual friend,then talk about the mutual friend as a way of buildingrapport. (By talk about, I don’t mean talking behindhis or her back…I mean saying GOOD THINGS aboutthe person and talking about funny little situations.)
7) Look physically clean and well-groomed
You will be surprised at how many “loners”don’t follow this simple tip…
8) Leave her before the energy drops.
Just when the conversation is going well, leaveher wanting more!
http://www.datingsupportcenter.com/datingarticles/how-to-make-women-comfortable-around-you/
Yesterday we talked about how it is hard toattract women when you’re sending out a dangerous vibeto them. Today I’ll show you how to make womencomfortable around you.
1) Have social proof.
Go out with female friends. If a womansees you hanging out with cool people, she will thinkyou can’t be too freaky.
An alternative is to meet women at house parties.If you are invited to the party, it means you are probablynot an axe murderer!
2) Advance slowly and only take small steps.
Take things slowly and fish for her “returningsignals” before advancing to the next step!
*Always* use the flirt test!
3) Act like a challenge.
If you act like a challenge and keep teasing awoman, she will focus on whether she is good enough foryou or not, not whether you’re a freak or not.
4) Get rid of any creepy body language.
REALLY work on making your body languagesmooth and relaxed. The more frigid you are, the moreof a “freak” you will appear to be!
5) Build deep rapport with women.
Build rapport with women before you reallyflirt heavily with them. For some tips on how to talkto women, check out my report on conversation at:
http://www.datebeautifulwomen.com/conversation.pdf
6) Emphasize on things you have in common with the woman.(Common friends, hometown, etc)
If you and the woman both know a mutual friend,then talk about the mutual friend as a way of buildingrapport. (By talk about, I don’t mean talking behindhis or her back…I mean saying GOOD THINGS aboutthe person and talking about funny little situations.)
7) Look physically clean and well-groomed
You will be surprised at how many “loners”don’t follow this simple tip…
8) Leave her before the energy drops.
Just when the conversation is going well, leaveher wanting more!
http://www.datingsupportcenter.com/datingarticles/how-to-make-women-comfortable-around-you/
How To Attract Women By Asking Them For Favours
“How To Attract Women By Asking Them For Favours”
Here’s a little exercise I would like you totry:
Try to ask for tiny favours from women you haverapport with whenever you can.
There are a few reasons for this exercise.
First of all, most guys are more comfortablewith DOING favours for women instead of ASKING them forfavours. By getting you to actively ask for favours fromwomen, I am trying to get you to break out of yourshell.
Secondly, asking women for favours will allowthem to INTERACT with you, which is REALLY importantif you’re trying to attract them.
Here’s a bit of human psychology: We usuallygrow to like the people we help. After you havehelped someone, you will generally find yourself likingthem more than you did before. This is your ego’s wayof telling you that you have done the right thing byhelping the person. This REALLY helps in dating, asthe woman will think, “Hmm. This guy can’t be thatbad if I let him borrow my pen.” While a smallstep like this is insignificant on its own, if youadd MANY such small steps together, they will becomea very powerful attraction force.
Finally, asking for favours will allow you to“pay back” a woman with compliments and dates. It isa LOT easier to “thank” a woman by taking her outfor a cup of coffee to than to ask her out directly.
http://www.datingsupportcenter.com/datingarticles/how-to-attract-women-by-asking-them-for-favours/
Here’s a little exercise I would like you totry:
Try to ask for tiny favours from women you haverapport with whenever you can.
There are a few reasons for this exercise.
First of all, most guys are more comfortablewith DOING favours for women instead of ASKING them forfavours. By getting you to actively ask for favours fromwomen, I am trying to get you to break out of yourshell.
Secondly, asking women for favours will allowthem to INTERACT with you, which is REALLY importantif you’re trying to attract them.
Here’s a bit of human psychology: We usuallygrow to like the people we help. After you havehelped someone, you will generally find yourself likingthem more than you did before. This is your ego’s wayof telling you that you have done the right thing byhelping the person. This REALLY helps in dating, asthe woman will think, “Hmm. This guy can’t be thatbad if I let him borrow my pen.” While a smallstep like this is insignificant on its own, if youadd MANY such small steps together, they will becomea very powerful attraction force.
Finally, asking for favours will allow you to“pay back” a woman with compliments and dates. It isa LOT easier to “thank” a woman by taking her outfor a cup of coffee to than to ask her out directly.
http://www.datingsupportcenter.com/datingarticles/how-to-attract-women-by-asking-them-for-favours/
How To Turn A Friend Into A Girlfriend By Pulling Back
“How To Turn A Friend Into A Girlfriend By Pulling Back”
Last time I mentioned it is possible to turna friend into a girlfriend by pulling back from her.Today we will go into the details of how to do it.
Basically, when turning a friend into agirlfriend, you should always start by flirting withthe her. If she flirts back, good. But if she doesn’t,then obviously flirting more won’t help because shehas already put you into the friendship zone. Thisis when pulling back comes in handy.
I want you to imagine two scenarios. First,imagine yourself with a friend of the opposite sexthat you’ve been hanging out with for a long time.There is NO romantic chemistry at all. If she suddenlystarts flirting with you, do you think you willstart liking her? Maybe, maybe not.
Now imagine BUMPING into a friend that youhaven’t seen for a LONG time. She happens to bewearing a cute outfit that shows off her great body.She flirts with you and suggests going out for a cupof coffee to catch up with each other some time. Doyou think you’ll be a bit excited about gettingcoffee with her?
Probably!
Here’s another good example. If you see a friendeveryday and your friend loses a lot of weight overa period of a year, you’ll probably not going to noticeit.
But if you don’t see the person for a year,then the first thing you say when you meet your friendagain will probably be, “Wow. What happened to you?”
Bottom line: Not seeing a person for a whilecan often reset the friendship back to more “neutralterritory.” By pulling back for now, you will havea higher chance of getting out of the “friendshipzone” and starting a relationship with the personin the future than if you just keep on “beinggood friends” with a woman.
If a woman can say to herself, “Oh, my.He has changed! Wow…” when she sees you again,then you’ll be officially out of the friendshipzone!
For more ways to build attraction and toturn a friend into a girlfriend, sign up for mydating newsletter at:
http://www.datebeautifulwomen.com
http://www.datingsupportcenter.com/datingarticles/how-to-turn-a-friend-into-a-girlfriend-by-pulling-back/
Last time I mentioned it is possible to turna friend into a girlfriend by pulling back from her.Today we will go into the details of how to do it.
Basically, when turning a friend into agirlfriend, you should always start by flirting withthe her. If she flirts back, good. But if she doesn’t,then obviously flirting more won’t help because shehas already put you into the friendship zone. Thisis when pulling back comes in handy.
I want you to imagine two scenarios. First,imagine yourself with a friend of the opposite sexthat you’ve been hanging out with for a long time.There is NO romantic chemistry at all. If she suddenlystarts flirting with you, do you think you willstart liking her? Maybe, maybe not.
Now imagine BUMPING into a friend that youhaven’t seen for a LONG time. She happens to bewearing a cute outfit that shows off her great body.She flirts with you and suggests going out for a cupof coffee to catch up with each other some time. Doyou think you’ll be a bit excited about gettingcoffee with her?
Probably!
Here’s another good example. If you see a friendeveryday and your friend loses a lot of weight overa period of a year, you’ll probably not going to noticeit.
But if you don’t see the person for a year,then the first thing you say when you meet your friendagain will probably be, “Wow. What happened to you?”
Bottom line: Not seeing a person for a whilecan often reset the friendship back to more “neutralterritory.” By pulling back for now, you will havea higher chance of getting out of the “friendshipzone” and starting a relationship with the personin the future than if you just keep on “beinggood friends” with a woman.
If a woman can say to herself, “Oh, my.He has changed! Wow…” when she sees you again,then you’ll be officially out of the friendshipzone!
For more ways to build attraction and toturn a friend into a girlfriend, sign up for mydating newsletter at:
http://www.datebeautifulwomen.com
http://www.datingsupportcenter.com/datingarticles/how-to-turn-a-friend-into-a-girlfriend-by-pulling-back/
12 Ways To Know A Guy Is Flirting With You
So ladies…here is a list of signs he is flirting withyou. (And guys, here’s how to know if you are signalinginterests to a woman!)
1) See If He Tries To Attract Your Attention
If a guy is always trying to get your attention, you canbe PRETTY sure that he’s interested. Think about it. If youdidn’t find a guy intriguing, would you keep on trying totalk to him to get his attention? A man constantly tryingto get your attention is one of the most obivous signshe’s flirting with you.
2) See If He Tries To Stand Out From Other Guys
If a man tries HARD to stand out from other guys wheneveryou are around, he’s trying to get you to notice him.This may mean speaking a bit louder, having bolder bodymovements, standing taller, or even pulling crazystunts to “show” he’s cool.
3) See If He Tries To Act “Alpha”
One way he will try to stand out from other guys is by“acting alpha”. If he tries to put down other guyswhenever you are around, that’s a major sign he’sinterested in you. Other “alpha signs” includepuffing out their chests, leaning back in their chairs,or strutting when they walk!
4) See If His Eyebrows Remain Slightly Raised
Men often raise their eyebrows slightly when they aretalking to women they are interested in. Considerthis one of the tell-tale signs men give when flirting!
5) See If He Teases You A Lot
Men rarely pay attention to women they are not interestedin. So if a guy teases you a lot, either he is a playerand teases every girl he meets, or he must have SOMEinterests in you – ESPECIALLY if he combines it withother signs of flirting.
6) See If He Touches You “Accidentally”
A guy is probably trying to get closer to you if hetouches you “accidentally” more often than hetouches a girls.
7) See If He Maintains Eye Contact
If a guy is mesmerized with you, he will hold eyecontact with you and flirt with his eyes. If he’sshy, he will break eye contact and look away. Butafter a few seconds, he will look again.
8) See If He Uses A Different Voice Tone
Just like women, men uses a different voice tonewhen talking to woman. If he puts on a “specialvoice” whenever he is alone with you, he is probablyflirting with you.
9) See If He Is Invading Your Physical Boundaries
A guy who is flirting with you will invading yourphysical boundaries slowly. First he’ll mirrorhis body language with yours. Then he’ll leanforward as he becomes more interested in theconversation. He may start touching your elbowlightly when he makes a point. Before you knowit, he’ll be holding your hand, stroking yourhair, and going for a kiss.
10) See If He Is Checking You Out
If you catch him checking you out, you can be surethat he is at least interested in you physically.Now is the time to have a nice conversation withhim and get him to become interested with yourmind and personality as well!
11) See If He Gets Into a Cowboy Stance
Guys often slip into the “cowboy stance” when theyflirt with a woman. This consists of having his legsspread far apart, with shoulders relaxed and thumbstucked into the front of the belt. Watch for thisnext time you go to a nightclub.
12) See If He’ll Lend You His Coat
Guys don’t lend coats to anymore. If he lends youhis coat because you seem coat, either he’s agentleman, or he wants to see you “marked” as his.(Chances are, it’s both!)
For tips on how to flirt with men,check out: http://www.datebeautifulwomen.com/forwomen.html
Or, if you’re a man, then check out my“Smart Dating Course” at:
http://www.datebeautifulwomen.com/ebook.html
http://www.datingsupportcenter.com/datingarticles/12-ways-to-know-a-guy-is-flirting-with-you/
1) See If He Tries To Attract Your Attention
If a guy is always trying to get your attention, you canbe PRETTY sure that he’s interested. Think about it. If youdidn’t find a guy intriguing, would you keep on trying totalk to him to get his attention? A man constantly tryingto get your attention is one of the most obivous signshe’s flirting with you.
2) See If He Tries To Stand Out From Other Guys
If a man tries HARD to stand out from other guys wheneveryou are around, he’s trying to get you to notice him.This may mean speaking a bit louder, having bolder bodymovements, standing taller, or even pulling crazystunts to “show” he’s cool.
3) See If He Tries To Act “Alpha”
One way he will try to stand out from other guys is by“acting alpha”. If he tries to put down other guyswhenever you are around, that’s a major sign he’sinterested in you. Other “alpha signs” includepuffing out their chests, leaning back in their chairs,or strutting when they walk!
4) See If His Eyebrows Remain Slightly Raised
Men often raise their eyebrows slightly when they aretalking to women they are interested in. Considerthis one of the tell-tale signs men give when flirting!
5) See If He Teases You A Lot
Men rarely pay attention to women they are not interestedin. So if a guy teases you a lot, either he is a playerand teases every girl he meets, or he must have SOMEinterests in you – ESPECIALLY if he combines it withother signs of flirting.
6) See If He Touches You “Accidentally”
A guy is probably trying to get closer to you if hetouches you “accidentally” more often than hetouches a girls.
7) See If He Maintains Eye Contact
If a guy is mesmerized with you, he will hold eyecontact with you and flirt with his eyes. If he’sshy, he will break eye contact and look away. Butafter a few seconds, he will look again.
8) See If He Uses A Different Voice Tone
Just like women, men uses a different voice tonewhen talking to woman. If he puts on a “specialvoice” whenever he is alone with you, he is probablyflirting with you.
9) See If He Is Invading Your Physical Boundaries
A guy who is flirting with you will invading yourphysical boundaries slowly. First he’ll mirrorhis body language with yours. Then he’ll leanforward as he becomes more interested in theconversation. He may start touching your elbowlightly when he makes a point. Before you knowit, he’ll be holding your hand, stroking yourhair, and going for a kiss.
10) See If He Is Checking You Out
If you catch him checking you out, you can be surethat he is at least interested in you physically.Now is the time to have a nice conversation withhim and get him to become interested with yourmind and personality as well!
11) See If He Gets Into a Cowboy Stance
Guys often slip into the “cowboy stance” when theyflirt with a woman. This consists of having his legsspread far apart, with shoulders relaxed and thumbstucked into the front of the belt. Watch for thisnext time you go to a nightclub.
12) See If He’ll Lend You His Coat
Guys don’t lend coats to anymore. If he lends youhis coat because you seem coat, either he’s agentleman, or he wants to see you “marked” as his.(Chances are, it’s both!)
For tips on how to flirt with men,check out: http://www.datebeautifulwomen.com/forwomen.html
Or, if you’re a man, then check out my“Smart Dating Course” at:
http://www.datebeautifulwomen.com/ebook.html
http://www.datingsupportcenter.com/datingarticles/12-ways-to-know-a-guy-is-flirting-with-you/
Persecuted for Righteousness
All of our major institutions are hostile to orthodox Christianity. Our culture is relativistic and pluralistic and consequently hostile to anyone who is an absolutist and particularist... Devise some means - a post , a letter to the editor, a speech to a social club - of proclaiming basic, essential Christian moral or religionous teaching, and then wait for the response. For example, declare today that monogamous heterosexual marriage is the only legitimate outlet for sexual expression...Or declare today that Jesus is the only truth and only Savior of the world and imply by doing so that all other relgions are false and misleading. Can you predict the pesponse? You will be scorned. The only sin our civilization universally recognizes is that of intolerance, defined as not believing that all beliefs and lifestyle practices are equally valid. Say that there is one way or one truth and you have committed the worst 'sin'that you can commit today. Yet this is precisely what each Christian must believe, proclaim, and defend. Consequently , presecution will inevitably follow. You will be ridiculed. You will be socially ostracized. You will feel the pressure to conform to the fashions of the day. You may be denied a promotion. You may lose your job. We've seen it happen. You may be rejected by your family. Ask any recent convert from Judaism or Oslam about that.
- When Grace Transforms by Terry L.Johnson
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