The Good news finally arrives. The news that I have waited for 3 years ever since the start of an unstable time of mine. A time where things did not go as smoothly for me for the past 3 years. Ups and downs thru these years has dampened things for me. Although there is still hope and fun excitement with hope, things that are within my choice yet chosen not, were as they are. Though watery eyes not the scale that was previously, I choose with what I can choose with, to believe that this is all God's planning. And here I blogging all these. Not with a sense of blaming or accusation, but with a sense of deep "wordless" expression of awe of God, whom have His best plan for His people. This indeed may be the best plan and situation as the pathway is clear for me. Now it is left to me to decide. To continue to walk or stop and return to where I left off from.
This Good news has verified some thoughts that were unconfirmed and un-sustained with evidence. Perhaps it is on the fat hope of my side. So here it has verified.....and no matter how it was then, the situation that is then and the choice I made will be the same.
The question now for me is: What now...How am I going to move on from now....How to handle such things. Guess the one phrase a good friend whom surprise has a simple verse for me......God is Your shepherd. And my continuation is: with His staff and rod, I am comforted and at peace.
My prayer to God now is "Oh Lord, keep me sane and settled. In faithfulness that You are sovereign. With this mark of choice to return and what U prepared for me. Please help me not to be too extreme and stick close to Your teaching and Words. God has given what I wish to see and show me that He is faithful to the end."
Sunday, February 17, 2013
Wednesday, February 13, 2013
Half Glass alternative view
A psychologist walked around a room while teaching stress management to an audience. As she raised a glass of water, everyone expected they'd be asked the "half empty or half full" question. Instead, with a smile on her face, she inquired: "How heavy is this glass of water?"
Answers called out ranged from 8 oz. to 20 oz.
She replied, "The absolute weight doesn't matter. It depends on how long I hold it. If I hold it for a minute, it's not a problem. If I hold it for an hour, I'll have an ache in my arm. If I hold it for a day, my arm will feel numb and paralyzed. In each case, the weight of the glass doesn't change, but the longer I hold it, the heavier it becomes." She continued, "The stresses and worries in life are like that glass of water. Think about them for a while and nothing happens. Think about them a bit longer and they begin to hurt. And if you think about them all day long, you will feel paralyzed – incapable of doing anything."
It’s important to remember to let go of your stresses. As early in the evening as you can, put all your burdens down. Don't carry them through the evening and into the night. Remember to put the glass down!
Quoted from Facebook.....somewhere...
Tuesday, February 05, 2013
New 5 Cs that will actually make you a happy Singaporean
New 5 Cs that will actually make you a happy Singaporean
I’m sure that many of you readers out there believe the number one way to become a happier Singaporean is to vote for the correct political party in 2016.
Regardless of your political views, this article isn’t about politics or about what the government can do to make you happy.
It’s about what you can do to make yourself happy.
Let me start by asking you a few questions:
- Are you unhappy about your job?
- Are you dissatisfied with the public transportation system?
- Are you frustrated by the high cost of living?
You probably answered “yes” to at least one of those questions.
It seems like we have plenty of reasons to be unhappy. According to this recent report, we’re the unhappiest people in the world.
(We’re even more unhappy than people living in Iraq and Afghanistan. I find that unbelievable!)
Many people think they’ll be happy when they have the 5 C’s: cash, car, credit card, condominium, and country club.
The new 5 Cs that we should all be chasing after
But, on their own, these 5 Cs won’t bring you long-term happiness.
I’d like to introduce you to the 5 Cs that will:
1. Compare less
The more we compare ourselves with others, the unhappier we become. There will always be someone who is:
- Smarter than you
- Richer than you
- Luckier than you
- Better-looking than you
- More popular than you
- More charismatic than you
- More accomplished than you
You don’t benefit from comparing yourself with these people. The only person you should compare yourself with is you.
Are you wiser than you were a year ago? Kinder? More generous? More courageous?
If your answer is “no”, then it’s time to reflect and to commit to making real changes in your life.
2. Cherish what you have
Every expert on happiness will tell you that grateful people are happy people.
Dr. Sonja Lyubomirsky, in her book The How of Happiness, describes from a scientific perspective why counting your blessings makes you happier.
Following Dr. Lyubomirsky’s advice, we should write down at least one thing we’re grateful for every day. That’s sure to make us happier.
By expressing gratitude, we’re not denying that some things in life aren’t ideal. We’re simply acknowledging that, in many ways, we’re blessed.
We can all become happier by making a conscious effort to cherish what we have: family, friends, religious freedom, food to eat, a safe country to live in.
3. Choose your attitude
I’ve heard a saying that goes, “Your attitude determines your altitude.”
Cheesy but true? I think so.
You can’t always choose your circumstances, but you can always choose your attitude.
Your boss gave you a difficult assignment? You can either see it as a problem or as a challenging opportunity.
Your project didn’t get off to a good start? You can either see it as a stumbling block or as a stepping-stone to future success.
Attitude is a choice, just like happiness is a choice.
4. Complain less
Complain—it’s something we all do. But whenever we complain, without also proposing an alternative, we’re being irresponsible.
Some people believe that it’s the citizens’ job to complain and the government’s job to provide solutions.
But this isn’t the right attitude. As a responsible citizen, if we oppose government policy, then we should also take the initiative to suggest a viable solution.
When we’re whining, nobody’s winning. So let’s complain less.
5. Change your circumstances and yourself
When things don’t go your way, it’s easy to feel frustrated, helpless or confused.
Any time you feel this way, ask yourself:
“What is one thing I can do right now to improve the situation?”
This is an empowering question, because it makes you realize that there’s always something productive you can do.
Always.
You just need to focus on the one action you can take immediately.
If you’re unhappy about your relationship with your boss, schedule a conversation with him or her.
If you’re unhappy about your salary, improve your skills, enroll in a course, find a mentor, or negotiate a pay increase. You could even start a business on the side.
There’s an endless list of things you could do to make your life better. If you’re not willing to do anything on that list, then you shouldn’t complain.
Instead of complaining, take action.
In closing…
Happiness isn’t just an emotion. It’s a choice—a daily one.
Finding real happiness takes dedication and determination, so it’s not for the fainthearted.
It’s time to embrace the new 5 Cs.
It’s time to build a happier life and a happier Singapore.
It’s time to get to work.
Daniel Wong is the bestselling author of "The Happy Student: 5 Steps to Academic Fulfillment and Success". He offers The Exam Excellence (TEE) Mentoring Programme to help students to find exam success, while discovering new purpose in their journey of education. He writes regularly atwww.daniel-wong.com. Download his FREE e-book,"The Unhappiness Manifesto: Do You Make These 150 Mistakes In The Pursuit Of Happiness?", here. Download his other FREE e-book,"Singapore Scholarship Guide: The $500,000 Decision", here.
Quoted: http://sg.news.yahoo.com/blogs/singaporescene/5-cs-actually-happy-singaporean-012052570.html
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