Overflowing Love

I once read a book about a person who owned a small garden. He enjoyed going out to his garden to water his trees and take care of them day and night. Then one day, one of his trees started to lose its vitality and began to wither away. He took great pains on this issue for days and then paid a visit to his coworker, who was an expert on trees, and asked him to watch his tree. After his coworker's careful observation of this tree, he said, "It wasn't the sterile soil or disease that caused the tree's sickness. It was because you did not water it enough. Even though you gave it water day and night, because you gave it too little, your tree got dehydrated and that's waht's causing its death."

If you don't water a tree enough, it gets sick. For big trees, you need to water them enough for water to soak to the root. Watering their leaves in not enough. You need to drench them in order for them to grow well.

This applies not only to trees, but to people. As we grow in our faith, we need to water and nourish our souls to the depths of our being. Little feeding leads to little growth, while greater feasting on His Word leads to stronger roots.

Meals@home 2010

Tonight is not just another night of prayer to you. However it is a reunion of the time that You have promised to bless yet I have not fulfilled on my part of being present. Here I am present. Seeking Your presence. May You come and be here in our midst. To lead and to guide the direction in the faith journey that is to come.

1. Open Doors for Meals@home: Open the doors to them. Open the flood gates. You have already opened them all. Let us flow in Your spirit of love for them. God You love them. God, You love us. God helps us to love them too. Open our eyes to see their need. Engage us. For You have help us set. To Engage Them, To Enrich Them, To Embrace them. We have engaged them. We are embracing them. We are in the midst of enriching their life. Experience the blessing. Experience the You Can :)

2. Zhang Jun: Pray that this man of peace in open to know who you are. I pray that You will have loving touch on his heart. Lead us by Your will and stir in our hearts to show the reality of God's love in us. Let us shine for You for You are th God of the Gentiles. The God that loves all mankind.

3. Qian Jun: Heavenly Father, I ask that You will continue the works that is started in His life. That You are the one who is going to lead Him to draw closer to You. I seek for the blood of Jesus to cleanse him and that You will despise Him....The proud for In Jesus' Name, he does not know and understand what he does not know. God, please forgive him and draw him nearer to you.

4. May the how to invite come naturally and let You be the guide for our heart. Let drawing near be the objective and let this become more of a lifestyle of shining for Jesus daily. In God for Your Glory. The How is the Show of God.

Hamburger Evangelism

Compared to other hamburger chain stores like McDonalds or Burger King, "In-N-Out" is a fast-food restaurant that has cheaper and testier burgers, is clean and friendly and always crowded with people. Even people who do not enjoy burgers say that they would like to go to "In-N-Out" burgers, and there are also parents who visit "In-N-Out" once a week because they cannot bear their children's pestering. You're likely to have a wait in line for along time to eat an "In-N-Out" burger. Although we would like to see more branches, they follow their solid working principle by not excessively expanding their business.

Whenever our family visits this place, we check on the little writting that is imprinted on the bottom of a cup. It says, "For God so loved the world that he gave His one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life - John 3:16."

This is a verse that contains the essence of the Gospel. When I wfirst saw this writing, I wondered why they would have this verse printed on the bottom of a cup. If they want to evangelize, why don't they print it on the place where people could see it easily? Why the bottom? Then when I thought about it more, I learned that it was a careful combination of considerations of a Christian business owner's faith and business mind. I think this is the exquisite product that contains a professional business spirit that does not want to offend believers of other religions, and a believer's prayer that hopes God will use "In-N-Out" for world evangelism.

-Typing the Knot by Jae-Chul Lee

Do Not Call A Woman For A Date Until You Have Read These Rules

“Don’t Call A Woman For A Date Until You’ve Read These Rules”
Don’t call a woman until you’ve read the followingrules:
1) Don’t call to Chit-Chat: The longer you talk,the more likely the conversation will becomeboring. Don’t risk it. Keep all conversationsshort.
2) Call Only To Make A Date: When you call awoman, you only call to make a date. Wait until thedate for everything else!
3) Talk Slowly: Most guys talk too fast and soundway too eager. Relax, and talk slowly!
4) Use Your Flirty Voice: Don’t sound like a robotwhen you’re on the phone asking her out. Use yourflirty voice.
5) Sound Cheerful: The energy of your tone is veryimportant. If you sound cheerful, the woman willfeel more comfortable accepting the date from you.
6) Don’t Leave Her Messages: Messages are prettyuseless. A lot of women just screen them and don’tanswer them. Or they’ll just “forget” to call back.
7) Don’t Call Her Too Often: Don’t call her morethan twice a day. If you call her at lunch and shedoesn’t pick up, wait 6 hours and call her again inthe evening. If you call her in the evening andshe still doesn’t pick up, wait 2 days before youcall again!
8) If a family member answers, just ask forher to call your back. Don’t leave any messagesabout meeting her, etc. You don’t want her to beembarrassed!
9) Hang Up Before She Does: Keep all conversationsshort and hang up as soon as you’ve made the date!

http://www.datingsupportcenter.com/datingarticles/call-a-woman-rules/

20 Rules To Become the Man Women Adore

“20 Rules To Become the Man Women Adore”
Here are 20 rules to follow if you want to becomethe man women adore.
1) Flirt and act like a challenge
2) Live with integrity. This allows you to standup for yourself and NOT seek approval from people,including women.
3) Accept the consequences of your own actions.
4) Take compliments well instead of acting all embarrassed.
5) Be a leader
6) Be in control of a date. Allow a woman to just relaxand enjoy herself
7) Do not seek a woman’s approval
8) Always do something 100 percent, no matter what it is
9) Stop thinking a woman will fill up your empty heart
10) Get used to beautiful women. Don’t let them intimidate you
11) Improve your social and wealth status. It’s not a crime tobe rich or powerful
12) Explore your creative side. Paint or start a band
13) Embrace your masculinity
14) Be competitive
15) Do not avoid confrontations. Face difficult situationsstraight on
16) Have fun
17) Be a man and don’t rely on your date to make decisions
18) Live life and be adventurous
19) Try out new things and new places
20) Expect the best from other people, not just yourself

http://www.datingsupportcenter.com/datingarticles/20-rules-to-become-the-man-women-adore/

How To Get More Attention From Women

How To Get More Attention From Women”
Here are eight ways to get more attention from women.
1) Dress Well
As a man, if you dress well, you *will* turn heads. So wheneveryou go out, put on some nice shoes and a pair of nice slacks. Accessorizeyourself with a nice watch (consider it a long term investment) andnecklace. Get a real haircut instead of a buzz cut. (Work it into yourmonthly budget!)
You have 5 seconds to make a first impression. Don’t let yourclothes let you down!
2) Surround Yourself With Women
The more women you have around you, the more other womenwill pay attention to you and be comfortable around you. Consider itautomatic social proof. After all, if you wern’t a cool guy, youwouldn’t be surrounded by women.
If you have no female friends, now it’s time to get some. Don’tworry if they are not romantically interested in you. Just hang out withthem and meet other women while you are out with them.
3) Know Something About Everything
Open up yourself to the world and know a little bit abouteverything. Be an expert in one area or two…and just know enough(even just the basics) for the rest. This way, you can have a conversationabout anything.
4) Act Indifferent
If you act like you are in control of your life and don’treally care about what other people think (without being an extremist,of course), women will be drawn to you because they will be curiousabout your world.
5) Help People
Always keep an eye out for people (both men and women) whoneed a hand. You will get to put yourself right in front of someonewithout being unnatural about it.
6) Make people Laugh
If you can make people laugh, people will be drawn to you.Strangers will look at you and get curious about you when you getyour whole table to laugh at one of your jokes.
7) Be a Winner
Be a winner in everything you do. Women love guys who workhard, play hard, and TRY hard. Plus, being a winner will build upyour confidence in the long run.
8) Work Out Your Butt and Perfect Your Dance Moves
This may sound shallow, but do a lot of deep squats toworkout your butt. Though your physique isn’t everything, looking goodwill be like icing on the cake.
Next, learn to dance. Having a nice butt and some hot dancemoves will definitely draw you lots of attention from women on thedance floor.

http://www.datingsupportcenter.com/datingarticles/how-to-get-more-attention-from-women/

How To Make A Woman FEEL Different – The Yapping Technique

“How To Make A Woman FEEL Different – The Yapping Technique”
Today I am going to teach you a techniquethat I use all the time to “qualify” a woman and tomake her feel special.
I call it the yapping technique.
When I go out on a date, I will often“complain” about women hurting my head when theyyap too much. I’ll tell the woman even thoughI love listening to women, if all a woman cantalk about is silly, superficial things, I’lleventually zone out and ignore the yapping. ThenI’ll go on saying that I want a woman who canhave an *intelligent* conversation with me.
Three things will usually happen when Iuse this technique:
1) The woman will tell me that she loveshaving intelligent conversations with men whounderstand her. (Good. She has just jumpedthrough the hoop I have set for her.)
2) She will be convinced that she is“different” than the other shallow girls *and*she’ll be flattered that you think the differenceis important.
3) She’ll know she has to somehow bedifferent or better than other girls if she wantsto hang out with me.
Depending on the woman, I will evenjoke around with the topic. For example, I maytell a woman how it is amazing that when aman is courting a woman, he will often listento every word she says. But as soon as theyhave slept together, the first time he’llhear when they wake up together the next morningis her yapping. Then I’ll make a “Pacman”gesture with my hand and “yap” into my own ear.
If the woman has a playful personality,she will love it when you do this. Plus, sinceyou’re referring to other women INDIRECTLY, itwill build your social proof.
Now go out and try this technique!

http://www.datingsupportcenter.com/datingarticles/how-to-make-a-woman-feel-different-the-yapping-technique/

How To Ask A Woman Out When There Are Other People Watching

“How To Ask A Woman Out When There Are Other People Watching”
One of the most common questions that I get frommy readers is, “How do I ask a woman out when thereare others watching?”
Here’s my answer:
Don’t ask her out when there are other peoplearound. Ask her for her number or email instead.This way, you can ask her out LATER over thephone, without everybody watching her reaction.
But of course…the response I get to thisanswer is usually, “But how do I ask her for hernumber when there are other people watching?Won’t it be embarrassing if she doesn’t give it to me?”
My answer is to just GROW SOME BALLS and do it.If you make it casual and not big deal out of it,chances are other people won’t even notice you’reasking for her number.
For example, you can use my simplephone routine. To the third party, you’re not evenhitting on her – you’re just asking for her numbercasually because you’re making friends.
Besides, so what if other people knowyou’re asking for her number because you’re romanticallyinterested?
You’re the one who has the courage to walk upto a woman and get her number. They’re not.
So who’s the winner here, no matter what theoutcome of the situation is?
As an old teacher used to tell kids who makefun of kids doing speeches at the podium: “I don’tsee YOU up there!”

http://www.datingsupportcenter.com/datingarticles/how-to-ask-a-women-out-when-there-are-other-people-watching/

Tips For Dating a Friend

“Tips For Dating a Friend”
Interested in turning a friendship into a romantic relationship? Got a secret crush on your best friend? Here are 7 tips for dating a friend.
1) Be Prepared To Lose the Friendship
First of all, if you are considering datinga friend, you should be prepared to lose thefriendship. I know I’ll probably be bashed by sappyfolks for saying this, but it’s just a harsh truthbased on all the cases I’ve seen as a datingcoach in the past ten years.
If your friend does not reciprocate yourfeelings, he or she may “freak out” and pull backfrom you.
Even if your friend does like you back andyou guys end up dating, the relationship may not lastforever. And when the breakup finally happens, it maynot be as amicable as you would hope.
2) Don’t Just Say It
If you like your friend, make sure you don’tjust “spill your beans” and reveal how you feel.They may NOT feel the same way. Even if they did,“telling” them would kill their interest level.Instead of wearing your heart on your sleeve andletting yourself blurt it out, just follow the tipsin this article and take things one step at a time.
3) Make Them See You Differently
Your first job is to stop bring predictable and makethem start seeing you differently? Why? Because theyprobably think they know you very well and that thereis no reason to go from being “friends” to dating.You gotta change that. Surprise them by showing moresides to you. (They better be good things!) Make themrealize that there is a LOT more to you than whatmeets the eye. You gotta make them intrigued by you,or you’re going to be stuck as a friend forever.
4) Know When To Pull Back
This may feel counter-intuitive, but sometimesyou have to pull back before you can advance. Ifyou friend currently takes your presence in theirlife for granted, then maybe it’s time todisappear for a little while so that when you talkagain, you can do so from a clean slate.
5) Do Exciting Things and Act Like a Challenge
This goes with making your friend see you differently.Do things that are “different”, unique, and exciting.At the same time, stop being “nice” and start doingthings more on your own terms. Don’t just be a nice“best guy friend” or “best girl friend”. Be independent,exciting, and unique. Make them miss you and wantto hang out with you.
6) Flirt and Raise the Physical Attraction
Once you have your friend seeing you differently, ypushould flirt, flirt, and flirt some more. I can’temphasize this enough. It is extremely important thatyou start taking things to a more “physical level.”When you’re dealing with a friend you’re known fora long time, it usually takes a LOT of physicalchemistry to get them to start fantasizing aboutbeing in a relationship with you. So go for a kiss(or more) if you can!
6) Know How To Transit
How you handle the first kiss or make-out sessionwith be a make-or-break for your new relationship.If you act weird or don’t know what to do, doubtwill creep in and your friend may start feelingguilty about doing what they did with you sinceyou’re “just friends”. Don’t allow that to happen.Prolong that “post-kiss” or “post-make-out”afterglow for as long as possible by acting likea lover. Cuddle and whisper sweet things intoyour friend’s ears until it feels like you aretogether already.
7) Keep the Interest Level High
The interest level may fluctuate for awhiledue to guilt and confusion. So make sure youkeep on flirting and acting like a challenge.Otherwise, you’re going to hear the “Let’sjust be friends” request pretty soon!

http://www.datingsupportcenter.com/datingarticles/tips-for-dating-a-friend/

How To Ask A Woman Out Without Giving Her Pressure

“How To Ask A Woman Out Without Giving Her Pressure”
Today I am going to show you how to aska woman out without giving her pressure.
Here are the seven steps you should follow:
1) Flirt with her.
2) Build rapport.
3) Talk about things she finds interesting.
4) Find something you have in common.
5) Mention casually, “Yeah. We should do that togethersome time.”
6) See her reaction.
7) If her reaction is good, then suggest a time andplace.
So…how is this method better than justwalking up to a woman and asking her out?
Well, if you think about it, how do mostguys ask women out? They wait and wait and waituntil they get enough courage to ask a woman, orthey wait and wait and wait for the “perfectopportunity.” As a result, when they finallyask, there’s often a kind of awkward energy thatlingers in the air.
And guess what this energy creates? That’sright, pressure! When it’s clear that you want tohear a “yes” for an answer, it gives the womana lot of pressure. And when it comes to love andattraction, the more pressure you give a woman,the more you push her away.
This is especially true if the woman hasno idea that you are interested in her romantically.Asking her out one day out of nowhere is going togive her a shock. Even if she agrees, she may callyou later to flake out on you. (Yes, that’s howit happens, guys!)
But by using the method I am teaching you,you will be able to keep your cool and ask her outSPONTANEOUSLY without giving her any pressure.She will just see the “date” as an opportunity tohave fun with you and maybe get to know you better,but not an “official date” that requires fullcommitment.

http://www.datingsupportcenter.com/datingarticles/how-to-ask-a-woman-out-without-giving-her-pressure/

The Stupid Dating Mistakes Men Keep On Making

“The Stupid Dating Mistakes Men Keep On Making”
No, this article isn’t about the 5 or 10 most commondating mistakes that men make. It’s a rant on how many menKEEP on making the same mistakes.
I am sure you have heard of the old saying, “Smartpeople learn from other people’s mistakes, average peoplelearn from their own mistakes, stupid people never learn.”
Unfortunately, when it comes to dating, mostpeople are stupid!
9 out of 10 clients I work with KNOW what theirproblems are…but they don’t want to change because ofthe emotions involved.
So…today I would like to challenge you with thefollowing question:
“What have you learned from your own dating mistakesin the past year? And have you CHANGED?”
For example…
Are you still hung up on that one girl becauseyou just can’t let her go?
Do you still find yourself disrespected by women becauseyou are “too nice” to them?
Do you read tons of dating articles and books butnever do anything with the information?
Do you always get the same negative reaction when youapproach a woman? (This means you’re doing something WRONG,by the way.)
Do women always lose interest in you after a few daysor weeks?
Do you continue to find yourself attracted to womenwith bad character who are not good for you?
Here’s the golden rule: If you keep on gettingthe same results that you don’t LIKE, it only means you aremaking SOME kind of a mistake OVER and OVER again.
If you know the mistakes you are making, then it’stime to have a little self-discipline to FIX YOURSELF. (Forhelp, read my “Smart Dating Course” or “Smart RelationshipsCourse“.)
If you don’t even know what mistakes you are making,then you need to sit down and really THINK about what it isthat you are doing wrong. Pull back from the situationand apply CRITICAL THINKING. Read my books and analyze yourparticular situation. CLEAR UP YOUR MIND, put your emotionsaside, and apply COMMON SENSE.
Put this simple but effective advice into practice,and I promise you will see improved results!

http://www.datingsupportcenter.com/datingarticles/the-stupid-dating-mistakes-men-keep-on-making/

How To Tease A Woman Sexually

“How To Tease A Woman Sexually”
Here is a routine you can use to tease a womansexually. This routine is great for bringing back a lostspark to a dying relationship.
1) Have a lot of fun on a date.
2) Take her back to her house or your house.
3) Instead of making out, engage in a deep conversationwith her.
4) Look at her in the eyes and say some romantic thingsto her without breaking eye contact. Use the lovinggaze from my “Smart Dating Course.”
5) Tell her how hot she looks at that moment. Don’tbreak the eye contact.
6) Tell her you can’t help but to take her rightthere because she’s looking too beautiful. Once again.do not break the eye contact.
7) If you are confident, then keep on talking abouthow you are going to pleasure her all night…all withoutbreaking eye contact at all.
8) Lower your face to go for a kiss SLOWLY. Make sureyou make it SLOW.
9) Just when your lips are about to touch hers, pullup and smile at her.
10) Then simply pull back and watch her go crazy.
If you do this right, she’s going towant to make love to you all night long!
http://www.datingsupportcenter.com/datingarticles/how-to-tease-a-woman-sexually/

25 Signs A Woman Is Interested In You

“25 Signs A Woman Is Interested In You”
Here are 25 signs a woman is interested in you.
1) She flirts with you, but not with other guys.
2) She talks to you a lot, but not to other guys.
3) You catch her checking you out.
4) She lets a strap fall off a shoulder but does not fix it.
5) She’s extremely excited and touchy when she is around you.
6) She flips her hair at you.
7) She flashes her wrists at you.
8) She licks her lips when she talks to you.
9) She leans over and whispers to you.
10) She mingle her stuff with yours.
11) She smiles genuinely when she’s around you.
12) She fidgets with her clothes around you.
13) She laughs at your dumbest jokes.
14) She mirrors your body position.
15) She calls you for random reasons.
16) She blushes when she looks at you.
17) She tries to “domesticate” you or to cook for you.
18) She gives you “the vibe”.
19) She dresses up when she knows she will see you.
20) She’s available when you ask her out.
21) She preens when she is around you.
22) She does not talk about her boyfriend…ever…even when she has one.
23) She keeps her eyes locked on you while she talks or drinks.
24) She smiles or blushes when she catches you checking her out.
25) She tries to probe information about you.
http://www.datingsupportcenter.com/datingarticles/25-signs-a-woman-is-interested-in-you/

The Three-Three Rule For Body Language And Attraction

“The Three-Three Rule For Body Language And Attraction”
Today I am going to teach you one of my ruleson gauging a woman’s attraction, the “Three-Three Rule.”
There are two parts to this rule.
The first part of the rule is that any timeyou try to use body language to gauge a woman’s attractionfor you, you MUST have three or more signals.
For example, if she just smiles, that is NOT enoughto say her body language shows she could be attracted to you.
If she smiles AND flicks her hair, that is also NOTenough to say she’s attracted to you.
But if she smiles, flicks her hair, AND sticks hischest out when she sees you, then she COULD be attractedto you, in which case you need to apply the second partof the rule.
The second part of the rule is that you mustNOT use body language alone to see if a woman is attractedto you.
You must also look at least two other indicators.
For example, you need to look at how much she flirtsback when you flirt with her (the flirt test) and howenthusiastic she is when she’s with you (the enthusiasmtest).
The Three-Three Rule is very important because it willallow you to think objectively and see if a woman is REALLYattracted to you instead of just “guessing” by relying ona few signals.

http://www.datingsupportcenter.com/datingarticles/three-three-rule-for-body-language-and-attraction/

Enneagram Personality Type Indicator ResultsYour highest score will indicate you basic type, or it will be among the top 2-3 scores. Low scores in some type might come out negative. That's perfectly normal.
For best results, you should answer all the questions that apply.
Type 1: -4
Type 2: 3
Type 3: -5
Type 4: 5
Type 5: 1
Type 6: -2
Type 7: -4
Type 8: -6
Type 9: 12

The Nine Personality Types of the Enneagram

Type 1: The Reformer. The rational, idealistic type.

Type 2: The Helper. The caring, nurturing type.

Type 3: The Motivator. The adaptable, success-oriented type.

Type 4: The Artist. The intuitive, reserved type.

Type 5: The Thinker. The perceptive, cerebral type.

Type 6: The Skeptic. The committed, security-oriented type.

Type 7: The Generalist. The enthusiastic, productive type.

Type 8: The Leader. The powerful, aggressive type.

Type 9: The Peacemaker. The easygoing, accommodating type.

http://www.9types.com/epd/9.php

The Peacemaker (the Nine)
Peacemakers are receptive, good-natured, and supportive. They seek union with others and the world around them.

How to Get Along with Me
If you want me to do something, how you ask is important. I especially don't like expectations or pressure.
I like to listen and to be of service, but don't take advatage of this.
Listen until I finish speaking, even though I meander a bit.
Give me time to finish things and make decisions. It's OK to nudge me gently and nonjudgmentally.
Ask me questions to help me get clear.
Tell me when you like how I look. I'm not averse to flattery.
Hug me, show physical affection. It opens me up to my feelings.
I like a good discussion but not a confrontation.
Let me know you like what I've done or said.
Laugh with me and share in my enjoyment of life.

What I Like About Being a Nine
being nonjudgmental and accepting
caring for and being concerned about others
being able to relax and have a good time
knowing that most people enjoy my company; I'm easy to be around
my ability to see many different sides of an issue and to be a good mediator and facilitator
my heightened awareness of sensations, aesthetics, and the here and now
being able to go with the flow and feel one with the universe

What's Hard About Being a Nine
being judged and misunderstood for being placid and/or indecisive
being critical of myself for lacking initiative and discipline
being too sensitive to criticism; taking every raised eyebrow and twitch of the mouth personally
being confused about what I really want
caring too much about what others will think of me
not being listened to or taken seriously

Nines as Children Often
feel ignored and that their wants, opinions, and feelings are unimportant
tune out a lot, especially when others argue
are "good" children: deny anger or keep it to themselves

Nines as Parents
are supportive, kind, and warm
are sometimes overly permissive or nondirective

Renee Baron & Elizabeth Wagele

About 世界唯一的你

歌手：曹格 歌曲：世界唯一的你


是你
第一眼我就认出来
这是命运最美的安排
是我
让你过长的等待
我们只要现在深爱
幸福就来
恨我来不及参于你的过去
抱歉让你等待
我愿意付出一切交换
我灵魂的另一半
这个世界唯一的你
是我拥有的奇迹
对我说的一字一句
都是我们的秘密
紧紧拥抱唯一的你
无可救药的坚定
就是世界与我为敌
我也愿意
我什么都愿意
过去所有的悲哀
都只是寻觅我唯一
勇敢真爱
照亮了漆黑的夜晚
寻找了一次一辈子
再不分开
恨我来不及参于你的过去
抱歉让你等待
我愿意付出一切交换
我灵魂的另一半
呜...耶....
是一个奇迹
对我说的一字一句
都是我们的秘密
紧紧拥抱唯一的你
无可救药的坚定
就是世界与我为敌
我也愿意
我什么都愿意
....呜...哦...
我愿意付出一切交换
我灵魂的另一半
ho ...哦...
就算让我伤尽天理
我什么都愿意为你
紧紧拥抱唯一的你
无可救药的坚定
就是世界与我为敌
我也愿意
我什么都愿意


http://ziyou87.blogspot.com/2010/06/about.html

Christlike Devotion

Christ's devotion to His Father and to God's love for me kept Him on the cross. It was His unwavering commitment to His heavenly Father that prompted Him to begin His ministry by submitting Himself to baptism by John. It was Christ's devotion to His Father that motivated Him to spend forty days in the desert, alone and needy, so that He could be tempted with everything I might face - and yet remain victorious. It was becayse of His dedication to His Father that Christ endured the rejection, hatred, and betrayal of the very people He would die for. Christ's devoted commitment was ultimately displaying in the turning point of human history - His death on the cross.

Hebrews tells us that Christ endured the cross because He looked forward to the joy of the days before Him. That means He so looked forward to a relationship with me that He was willing to die. The joy of the relationship with me is a part of what motivated Christ to put up with all the ridicule and disappointment.

We need a taste of that devotion if our marriages are to survive the tests life is sure to bring.

Couples often ask for marital help after one of life's tragedies, such as a baby lost in labor, a bankruptcy, or a rebellious teenager..

The couples who survive life;s tragedies are the ones who show devotion in the everyday things. They express commitment and devotion to one another regularly through acts of devotion, big and small.

- The One Year Devotions for Couples by David & Teresa Ferguson

What If You Are Not Sure If She Likes You

“What If You Are Not Sure If She Likes You”
If you’re not sure if a woman likes you, it meansonly one thing:
You haven’t advanced enough.
According to my “Smart Dating Course”, dating is likepassing a traffic light at an intersection. (My green light theory.)
When you come to an intersection with a traffic light,there are only three lights you can get – a green light, ared light, or a yellow light.
The green light means “go ahead”. (She likes you.)
The red light means “no”. (She’s rejecting you.)
The yellow light means you’re not sure.
But as a smart Dater, you DO NOT want to see a yellowlight. To a student of the Smart Dating System, seeing ayellow light just means you haven’t been advancing enough. Itmeans you should have kept driving through the light to the nextintersection until you see a red light or a green light.
Why? Because until you actually advance through theyellow light, you will NEVER know if it’s going to turn intoa red light or a green light at the next intersection.
Even getting a red light is better than getting a yellowlight, because then you can MOVE ON with your life. Stayingwith a yellow light, on the other hand, will be a waste ofyour time.
So how do you use this analogy in the real world?
First of all, ALWAYS, ALWAYS use the flirt-test as away to advance to the next light. Flirt and see if sheflirts back. If she does, you know it’s a green light.
Secondly, you also want to keep moving in physicallyand taking things to the next level. If you’re holding herhand, then stroke her hair. If you’re stroking her hair, thengive her a kiss…and so on…
Because until you grow some balls and ADVANCED FORWARD,you have no way of telling how much she likes you back.

http://www.datingsupportcenter.com/datingarticles/what-if-you-are-not-sure-if-she-likes-you/

How To Tell If She Is Really Flirting With You

“How To Tell If She Is Really Flirting With You”
A few readers have written me because they donot know when a woman is flirting with them. So todayI’m going to teach you a way to find out with a womanis just naturally friendly with guys or if she’s reallyinterested in you.
Pretend she IS flirting…and take her bait.Flirt back a little bit more than she is flirting,and see how she reacts.
If she flirts back even MORE, then there’s aBIG chance that she has been flirting with you allalong. In that case, keep advancing and flirtingmore and more with her. Rinse and repeat untilyou are all over each other.
But if she doesn’t notice you flirting backor if she doesn’t respond to it, then I am sorry tosay that she only sees you as a friend. In that case,go back to the basics and attract her from scratch!

http://www.datingsupportcenter.com/datingarticles/how-to-tell-if-she-is-really-flirting-with-you/

How To Make Women Comfortable Around You

“How To Make Women Comfortable Around You”
Yesterday we talked about how it is hard toattract women when you’re sending out a dangerous vibeto them. Today I’ll show you how to make womencomfortable around you.
1) Have social proof.
Go out with female friends. If a womansees you hanging out with cool people, she will thinkyou can’t be too freaky.
An alternative is to meet women at house parties.If you are invited to the party, it means you are probablynot an axe murderer!
2) Advance slowly and only take small steps.
Take things slowly and fish for her “returningsignals” before advancing to the next step!
*Always* use the flirt test!
3) Act like a challenge.
If you act like a challenge and keep teasing awoman, she will focus on whether she is good enough foryou or not, not whether you’re a freak or not.
4) Get rid of any creepy body language.
REALLY work on making your body languagesmooth and relaxed. The more frigid you are, the moreof a “freak” you will appear to be!
5) Build deep rapport with women.
Build rapport with women before you reallyflirt heavily with them. For some tips on how to talkto women, check out my report on conversation at:
http://www.datebeautifulwomen.com/conversation.pdf
6) Emphasize on things you have in common with the woman.(Common friends, hometown, etc)
If you and the woman both know a mutual friend,then talk about the mutual friend as a way of buildingrapport. (By talk about, I don’t mean talking behindhis or her back…I mean saying GOOD THINGS aboutthe person and talking about funny little situations.)
7) Look physically clean and well-groomed
You will be surprised at how many “loners”don’t follow this simple tip…
8) Leave her before the energy drops.
Just when the conversation is going well, leaveher wanting more!

http://www.datingsupportcenter.com/datingarticles/how-to-make-women-comfortable-around-you/

How To Attract Women By Asking Them For Favours

“How To Attract Women By Asking Them For Favours”
Here’s a little exercise I would like you totry:
Try to ask for tiny favours from women you haverapport with whenever you can.
There are a few reasons for this exercise.
First of all, most guys are more comfortablewith DOING favours for women instead of ASKING them forfavours. By getting you to actively ask for favours fromwomen, I am trying to get you to break out of yourshell.
Secondly, asking women for favours will allowthem to INTERACT with you, which is REALLY importantif you’re trying to attract them.
Here’s a bit of human psychology: We usuallygrow to like the people we help. After you havehelped someone, you will generally find yourself likingthem more than you did before. This is your ego’s wayof telling you that you have done the right thing byhelping the person. This REALLY helps in dating, asthe woman will think, “Hmm. This guy can’t be thatbad if I let him borrow my pen.” While a smallstep like this is insignificant on its own, if youadd MANY such small steps together, they will becomea very powerful attraction force.
Finally, asking for favours will allow you to“pay back” a woman with compliments and dates. It isa LOT easier to “thank” a woman by taking her outfor a cup of coffee to than to ask her out directly.

http://www.datingsupportcenter.com/datingarticles/how-to-attract-women-by-asking-them-for-favours/

How To Turn A Friend Into A Girlfriend By Pulling Back

“How To Turn A Friend Into A Girlfriend By Pulling Back”
Last time I mentioned it is possible to turna friend into a girlfriend by pulling back from her.Today we will go into the details of how to do it.
Basically, when turning a friend into agirlfriend, you should always start by flirting withthe her. If she flirts back, good. But if she doesn’t,then obviously flirting more won’t help because shehas already put you into the friendship zone. Thisis when pulling back comes in handy.
I want you to imagine two scenarios. First,imagine yourself with a friend of the opposite sexthat you’ve been hanging out with for a long time.There is NO romantic chemistry at all. If she suddenlystarts flirting with you, do you think you willstart liking her? Maybe, maybe not.
Now imagine BUMPING into a friend that youhaven’t seen for a LONG time. She happens to bewearing a cute outfit that shows off her great body.She flirts with you and suggests going out for a cupof coffee to catch up with each other some time. Doyou think you’ll be a bit excited about gettingcoffee with her?
Probably!
Here’s another good example. If you see a friendeveryday and your friend loses a lot of weight overa period of a year, you’ll probably not going to noticeit.
But if you don’t see the person for a year,then the first thing you say when you meet your friendagain will probably be, “Wow. What happened to you?”
Bottom line: Not seeing a person for a whilecan often reset the friendship back to more “neutralterritory.” By pulling back for now, you will havea higher chance of getting out of the “friendshipzone” and starting a relationship with the personin the future than if you just keep on “beinggood friends” with a woman.
If a woman can say to herself, “Oh, my.He has changed! Wow…” when she sees you again,then you’ll be officially out of the friendshipzone!
For more ways to build attraction and toturn a friend into a girlfriend, sign up for mydating newsletter at:
http://www.datebeautifulwomen.com

http://www.datingsupportcenter.com/datingarticles/how-to-turn-a-friend-into-a-girlfriend-by-pulling-back/

12 Ways To Know A Guy Is Flirting With You

So ladies…here is a list of signs he is flirting withyou. (And guys, here’s how to know if you are signalinginterests to a woman!)
1) See If He Tries To Attract Your Attention
If a guy is always trying to get your attention, you canbe PRETTY sure that he’s interested. Think about it. If youdidn’t find a guy intriguing, would you keep on trying totalk to him to get his attention? A man constantly tryingto get your attention is one of the most obivous signshe’s flirting with you.
2) See If He Tries To Stand Out From Other Guys
If a man tries HARD to stand out from other guys wheneveryou are around, he’s trying to get you to notice him.This may mean speaking a bit louder, having bolder bodymovements, standing taller, or even pulling crazystunts to “show” he’s cool.
3) See If He Tries To Act “Alpha”
One way he will try to stand out from other guys is by“acting alpha”. If he tries to put down other guyswhenever you are around, that’s a major sign he’sinterested in you. Other “alpha signs” includepuffing out their chests, leaning back in their chairs,or strutting when they walk!
4) See If His Eyebrows Remain Slightly Raised
Men often raise their eyebrows slightly when they aretalking to women they are interested in. Considerthis one of the tell-tale signs men give when flirting!
5) See If He Teases You A Lot
Men rarely pay attention to women they are not interestedin. So if a guy teases you a lot, either he is a playerand teases every girl he meets, or he must have SOMEinterests in you – ESPECIALLY if he combines it withother signs of flirting.
6) See If He Touches You “Accidentally”
A guy is probably trying to get closer to you if hetouches you “accidentally” more often than hetouches a girls.
7) See If He Maintains Eye Contact
If a guy is mesmerized with you, he will hold eyecontact with you and flirt with his eyes. If he’sshy, he will break eye contact and look away. Butafter a few seconds, he will look again.
8) See If He Uses A Different Voice Tone
Just like women, men uses a different voice tonewhen talking to woman. If he puts on a “specialvoice” whenever he is alone with you, he is probablyflirting with you.
9) See If He Is Invading Your Physical Boundaries
A guy who is flirting with you will invading yourphysical boundaries slowly. First he’ll mirrorhis body language with yours. Then he’ll leanforward as he becomes more interested in theconversation. He may start touching your elbowlightly when he makes a point. Before you knowit, he’ll be holding your hand, stroking yourhair, and going for a kiss.
10) See If He Is Checking You Out
If you catch him checking you out, you can be surethat he is at least interested in you physically.Now is the time to have a nice conversation withhim and get him to become interested with yourmind and personality as well!
11) See If He Gets Into a Cowboy Stance
Guys often slip into the “cowboy stance” when theyflirt with a woman. This consists of having his legsspread far apart, with shoulders relaxed and thumbstucked into the front of the belt. Watch for thisnext time you go to a nightclub.
12) See If He’ll Lend You His Coat
Guys don’t lend coats to anymore. If he lends youhis coat because you seem coat, either he’s agentleman, or he wants to see you “marked” as his.(Chances are, it’s both!)
For tips on how to flirt with men,check out: http://www.datebeautifulwomen.com/forwomen.html
Or, if you’re a man, then check out my“Smart Dating Course” at:
http://www.datebeautifulwomen.com/ebook.html
http://www.datingsupportcenter.com/datingarticles/12-ways-to-know-a-guy-is-flirting-with-you/

Persecuted for Righteousness

All of our major institutions are hostile to orthodox Christianity. Our culture is relativistic and pluralistic and consequently hostile to anyone who is an absolutist and particularist... Devise some means - a post , a letter to the editor, a speech to a social club - of proclaiming basic, essential Christian moral or religionous teaching, and then wait for the response. For example, declare today that monogamous heterosexual marriage is the only legitimate outlet for sexual expression...Or declare today that Jesus is the only truth and only Savior of the world and imply by doing so that all other relgions are false and misleading. Can you predict the pesponse? You will be scorned. The only sin our civilization universally recognizes is that of intolerance, defined as not believing that all beliefs and lifestyle practices are equally valid. Say that there is one way or one truth and you have committed the worst 'sin'that you can commit today. Yet this is precisely what each Christian must believe, proclaim, and defend. Consequently , presecution will inevitably follow. You will be ridiculed. You will be socially ostracized. You will feel the pressure to conform to the fashions of the day. You may be denied a promotion. You may lose your job. We've seen it happen. You may be rejected by your family. Ask any recent convert from Judaism or Oslam about that.

- When Grace Transforms by Terry L.Johnson

Blessed Are Those Who Believe

After reading the Bible passage that mentioned how the Lord God caused Adam to fall into a deep sleep and then took his ribs to make a woman, The British Dr. Simpson (Simpson, Sir James Young 1811-1870) believed that this was a source of finding out how to perform painless operations. With faith and after much research, Simpson discovered the properties of chloroform during an experiement and was able to operate a patient without causing pain.

The American naval officer Maury( Maury, Matthew Fontaine 1806-1873) was reading the Bible one day and was greatly shocked when he found a verse that talked about the paths of the sea. "The birds of the air, and the fish of the sea, all that swim the paths of the seas" (Psalms 8:8). Since then he began looking for the "Paths of the seas" by charting ocean lanes. Maury made many important new contributions to modern oceanography by charting winds and ocean currents, including ocean lanes for passing ships at sea. He was the very first man to do all this. Moreover, not only are there paths of the seas, but there are also paths of the sky as well. Humans are designed as living creatures that sustain their lives through belief in things. Because of this, one's life is dictated by one's beliefs. If a person believes that one can live well through robbery, he becomes a robber. If another person believest that medical care should be offered to poor people, then he becomes like Dr. Albert Schweitzer. God's Word says'" ...blessed are those who have not seen and yet have believed" (John 20:29). I live tobelieve in Jesus even though I've never touched Him with my hands. I am certain that this belief is the world's greatest blessing.

- A Man who Used His Head by Eui-Il Noh

Renewing the Great Commission

"Self-salvation is the goal of much of our preaching," according to United Methodist bishop William Willimon. Willimon perceives that much of contemporary preaching, whether mainline or evangelical, assumes that conversion is something that we generate through our own words and sacraments. "In this respect we are heirs of Charles G.Finney," who thought that conversion was not a miracle but a "purely philosophical [i.e., scientific] result of the right use of the constituted means.'"

Nevertheless, "The homiletical future, alas, lay with Finney rather than Edwards." "Alas," adds Willimon, "most 'evangellistic' preaching I know about is an effort to drag people even deeper into their subjectivity rather than an attempt to resuce them from it." Willimon observes that our real problem, whether we feel it or not, is that we systematically distort and ignore the truth. This is why we need "an external word." "So in a sense, we don't discover the gospel, it discovers us. ' You did not choose me but I chose you' (John 15:16)." Willimon conclues, "The story is euangelion, good news, because it is about grace. Yet it is also news because it is not common knowledge, not what nine out of ten average Americans already know. Gospel doesn't come naturally. It comes as Jesus."

- by Michael Horton

Prayer list for Meals@home

Here is the prayer list that as I commit to the Lord:

1. Direction and leadership - Lord I ask that you will appoint someone who can lead this group. Someone who has the heart and is available. Lord I seek for your direction in this and may your spirit stirs in the heart of the people involved. May there be a clear direction and plan on how to do things Your way.

2. Open hearts - Lord I ask for open hearts of the people. May there be Man of Peace. People who established contacts and groups within the people. May their hearts be open for us to communicate with them more. Also let there be ways that we can communicate to them and also bring the message across. Allow the gel-ing of hearts and that you are the God of hospitality.

3. Dreams fulfiled with platforms - Create more platforms for us to be present in their lives. Let love and concern be there. Let there be a community for how you had led the objective to be created. May they not just be words but actions to be done.

I pray and commit all the above prayer items into Your hands. You are the God soverign in all things. Your plans are higher than ours. Your vision is miles from what we could comprehend. I seek that you will give and grant us the wisdom.

Find Your Call

Some of you will have calling, and sometimes your calling will be like mine. Mine was obvious. God spoke to me, "Marry Grace, plant churches, train men, preach the Bible." Okay, that's what I'm doing. For some of you, you'll be reading the Bible, and you'll see something or somebody, and it's all of a sudden like that just leaps out at you, you're like, "That's it. That's what I want to do. That's what I want to give my life to." Or you meet somebody in the Bible, you're like," I'm like them. I want to do what they're doing. That's what I need to do." That could be your calling. And sometimes it's trial and error, you're like, "I tired that, I'm no good at it. I tried that, I', no good at it. I tried that. Hey, that actually works. I'm pretty good at that, and I like that. God seems to bless it when I serve in that area."

Calling also can be just that deep-rooted sense of "have to" in your gut. It could be the Holy Spirit. So you say, "I have to help abuse victims. I have to help the poor. I have to help single moms. I have to help kids. I have to help men learn to be fathers." Right, there's something in your gut, and it's there from God. It's the beginning of a calling, and it starts with a real passion. Maybe there are certain things in life, you kind of ebb and flow, and the enthusiasm is hot and cold, but this is something that's consistent.

- by Mark Driscoll

Spiritual Growth Time Together

It isn't easy to discipline yourselves as a couple to spend regular time together focusing on your spirituality. Even though Cahty and I speak and write on this subject, we have struggled throughout our years of marriage in this area. We have tried reading books together and doing Bible study booklets. We have listened to CDs and watched video together on spiritual growth. We have tried to have a daily time and a weekly time to focus on our spiritual growth. Like so many others, it hasn't always worked for us.

The important issue is to find something that works for both you and your spouse. It may take some time of experimenting before you find what suits you both. Don't get frustrated. Keep trying.

Spiritual growth and intimacy is like anything else. It takes time and commitment. It is more about training than trying, and just like the Scripture says, you will reap what you sow (Galatians 6:7-8). Don't shortchange yourself or your spouse by not focusing on spiritual intimacy. At the end of your life you won't focues on your IRA retirement plan, the kind of house you live in, or what your bank account looks like. You will be interested in a right relationship with God and a right relationship with your loved ones. Why not start focusing on the really important things sooner rather that later?

- by Jim Burns

No Atonement, No Salvation

The eventual end of all life is death. People don't like to think about the eventual end. Although it's something that everyone must experience, nobody likes the idea of dying. If death is losing, life, then what is the source of life? The source of life is in the blood. "For the life of a creature is in the blood...." (Lve. 17:11).

On the point of salvation, it is important to recognize the meaning of blood. Because the wages of sin is death, a sinner who has committed the sin has to die. This is why Paul said, "Without the shedding of blood there is no forgiveness..." (Heb. 9:22). All sinners have to die. However, Jesus willing delievered us from Gid's wrath by receiving the curse that was placed upon us. He is "Jesus, who rescues us from the coming wrath" (1 Thess. 1:10), our Savior.

Do you believe this Jesus to be your Savior? Your answer to this question is literally a matter of life and death. It only become balid when you believe in the atonement of Jesus. Jesus' death on the cross was the only way that leads to salvation. Even if you attend church services and do many things out of service to others, it will not save you. Only through the atoneing work of Jesus is there asalvation for sinners. We celebrate His saving work today.

- Saved by Chang-young Kim

Perspective is the Key

The follower of Christ is not a pessimist, nor is he first an potimist. He is first a realist and then an optimist. In other words, the Christian is not optimistic because it is the most advantageous way to think but because it is the accurate way to think. The Christian's optimism is based squarely on realim: God is real, the atonement is real, the resurrection is real, the second coming is real, God's providence is real, and the gospel really is "good news".

Perspective is what Joshua and Caleb had, and the other ten spies didn't (Number 13-14). Joshua and Caleb enter Canaan and saw the land, the fruit, the potential for prosperity, and a place for their families to live and worship God. The other ten spies went to the same land and saw giants - great men of war, who made conquering the land seem impossible. Joshua and Caleb saw exactly the same giants. But somehow, to them, they just didn't seem so big. The two saw God bigger than giants. The ten saw giants as bigger than God. Because they saw God on his throne, Joshua and Caleb could look at the same set of circumstances and see a completely different picture than others saw - a picture both realistic and optimistic.

- by Randy Alcorn

Top 10: Ways To Get Her To Chase You

Most men naturally assume that it’s the MAN who must pursue the woman. But guys who are naturals at succeeding with women don’t buy into this belief -- and it’s a big part of why they’re always with the most attractive women. What would your life be like if instead of chasing women, women chased you? Here are 10 tips to shift the dynamic in your favor and get women tripping over themselves for a space on your social calendar.
Number 10
Use “reverse rapport”“Reverse rapport” is when you say and do the opposite of what a guy would do when he’s trying to make a woman like him… but in a sarcastic, overly serious way that assumes the woman already knows, likes and trusts you. The objective here is NOT to try to be sweet and wonderful and nice in order to win her approval. How do you do this? Well, one way is to use a sarcastic comment that’s the OPPOSITE of what a woman wants to hear. Or answer a question a woman asks you with an answer that’s the opposite of what she expects, all in a very sarcastic tone that implies you’re making fun of her. When you do, you’ll create a deep, polarity-charged connection with her that will get her pursuing you in no time flat.
Number 9
Read between the linesIf you’re talking to a woman on the phone and she tells you that she’s seeing someone, understand that she’s saying this more for herself than for you. She probably is casually dating another guy, but she’s feeling attracted to you, so she needs to say this to put on the brakes so she doesn’t feel “promiscuous.” If you find yourself in this situation, tell her something challenging like “Yeah, congratulations… and you know, that’s pretty assumptive thinking that I was trying to pursue you.” She won’t know what to say, and you will have communicated that you’re a confident guy who doesn’t need any woman -- just the kind of guy women LOVE. Don’t be surprised if she calls you back within a week, telling you she wants to get together and that she’s suddenly dumped the guy she was dating (for a chance to get to know you, of course).
Number 8
See beyond getting laidWhen I first started learning how to succeed with women and dating, the idea of getting laid was a lot more interesting to me than it is now because I thought that if you could learn how to “get laid” then you’d naturally be able to have any other kind of success you wanted with women. Well, many of the guys I’ve met who are GREAT at “getting laid” don’t have any idea how to find a high-quality woman to have a great relationship with and when they do find one, they have no idea how to keep her around. I think it’s much more interesting and useful to learn how and why women become attracted to men, and why they STAY attracted. This way, you’ll be able to keep that fantastic woman in your life once you find her. There’s nothing wrong with “getting laid,” but it’s only a tiny piece of the puzzle, and it alone won’t lead you to happiness and success in life.More tips to keep her interested…

Number 7
Stop courting, start attractingThere are two basic models for how men approach meeting women: the courtship model, and the attraction model. If you base your approach with women on ATTRACTION, you get a very different response from COURTING them. When you court a woman, her natural response is to run, which makes you want her more and makes her run more. But when you attract a woman, her natural response is to chase YOU. This subtlety makes all the difference in the world.

Number 6
Be the dominant oneCourting is based on what you DO, what you OFFER, and what you GIVE… and is largely based on gifts, dinners, flowers, compliments, etc. Attraction is based on how you communicate, who you are and your masculine identity. Courting takes the “make friends” strategy and supersizes it; it’s about being as nice as possible in order to get her to like you. Attraction isn’t concerned with “liking” because a woman doesn’t need to like you in order to feel attracted to you. Courting is facing the challenge; attraction is BEING the challenge. Courting is about being a follower, submissive and weak; attraction is about being a leader, dominant and strong. Stop courting, start attracting, and you won’t BELIEVE how it can transform your success with women.

Number 5
Show her you get itWomen will act completely different around you and treat you very differently if you’re a guy who “gets it.” The way to show her you’re one of these rare guys is to see when she’s testing you and keep your cool. So if she mentions that other men are interested in her or she says she’s unavailable or she complains about something you do, realize it’s just a test. Then simply say, “Hey, stop that stuff,” and she’ll know what you mean. More importantly, she’ll know she’s dealing with a real man, and she’ll stop at no expense to chase you down.

Number 4
Stay on your own courseMost men orient themselves by following and seeking approval of the woman. She leads, they follow; in fact, she isn’t even leading, but the man tries to convince her to lead with questions and body language that seek approval. This is a horrible mistake, and annoys women to no end. Instead, stay on your course, even when she’s all over the map. Let her reorient her body, behavior, moods, and responses to YOURS. Don’t ever try to get her to lead. Show her you’re the kind of man who loves to be the captain of your own ship, and she’ll feel an undeniable attraction to you.The top three ways to get her knocking at your door…

Number 3
Never backpedal or explain yourselfIf you say or do something that seems to upset a woman, don’t try to explain your way out of it or do something to “make her feel better.” Don’t act like you screwed up or show her that you’re nervous just because she’s acting upset. Just move on as if nothing happened. Get right on to the next topic or story. If she stays on it, whines or complains, just say “Get over it, it was a joke, stop being a pain,” and then get on to the next topic again. If you try to backpedal or explain yourself or in any way hint that you think you’ve “screwed up,” you’re DEAD MEAT. If you say something and she doesn’t like it, that’s not YOUR problem. Women often complain to see if they can manipulate you with their emotions, and when you show you don’t fall for this, her respect and ATTRACTION for you will go through the roof.

Number 2
Hint that you’re normalThere are a lot of psycho, perverted and “mentally unstable” guys out there, so it’s important you communicate through your behavior that you’re NOT one of them. Tell a woman you’re busy, and get off the phone WITHOUT asking her to meet for a date. Make fun of dumb-ass behavior, and other guys who act like wussies. If she calls but doesn’t leave a message, accuse her of being a stalker, and tell her that normal people leave messages. Chase women out of your house; say “get out” over and over again if she’s kissing you. All of this gives her subtle signs that you’re not some freak who desperately wants to get in her pants. This will give her an irresistible craving to get to know you better because you’re so different from the typical needy guys she dates.

Number 1
Use her own games on herWe all know women love playing games. But when you turn the tables and play games on a woman, it shifts the power dynamic in your favor. One of my favorite games to play with women is “You’re a brat, and I’m fake exasperated.” That’s pretty self-explanatory. Some others are “Let’s see who can act the least interested,” and “I’m hard to get, and you love me.” Have fun playing these games with a woman and you’ll soon find that she won’t be able to get enough of your challenging, confident personality.

http://www.askmen.com/top_10/dating_top_ten_150/168_dating_list.html

Top 10: Signs She’s Not Interested

There are literally billions of single women out there at the moment. Go ahead, add them up. Billions. Have you ever wasted time, money and oxygen on one that you never even had a chance with? Of course you didn’t realize it at the time, but yeah, you probably have. And the really annoying thing is that all the clues were right there in front of you, but you didn’t acknowledge them because you were so focused on the prize.Well, you never need to make that mistake again, because we’re here to spell out the top 10 signs she’s not interested in you. Sure, it’s a hard thing to accept, but you’ll be much better off if you can spot these signs early on. You’ll also need to consider that these signs may come to you at any stage of the courtship: the day you ask her out, on the first date or perhaps even a few dates in. When any one of these signs she’s not interested do creep up, it should be your cue to move along and set your sights on one of the other billion girls out there.Here they are, the top 10 signs she’s not interested in you:
Number 10
She declines an invitationEven once is not OK. Maybe her story about a busy schedule is true, but unless she's going into the hospital to have a kidney transplant that evening, a girl is going to find a way to go out with a guy she’s interested in. We’re not saying that you need to give up on this girl if she turns you down once, but you may need to prepare yourself for an uphill struggle to win her affection.
Number 9
She hasn’t introduced her friendsWhen it comes to dating, most girls want the approval of their friends. If, after several dates, she still hasn’t tried to exhibit you to one or more of her friends, it means she doesn’t expect any type of romantic relationship develop. She might be spending time with you because she has no better alternatives at the moment, but take her “secrecy” about you as one of her signs she’s not interested.
Number 8
She always brings her friendsConversely, if you can’t get this girl to come out for some one-on-one time, there’s obviously something wrong. There’s very little room for romantic maneuvering when she has her friends in tow, which is why this is one of the signs she’s not interested in you. If she never gives you the opportunity to get close, she’s probably happy with the distance between you.
Number 7
She talks about other menUnless it’s Brad Pitt, or someone equally famous and unattainable, her talk about other men should cause you some concern. This girl’s clearly on the lookout for someone besides you, and this is a not-so-subtle way of letting you know that. The jealousy angle should not be coming into play in the early stages of a relationship -- there’s plenty of time for that later. Furthermore, if she has the nerve to ask you for relationship advice, she has likely placed you in the “trusted male friend” category. Either that or she’s already playing mind games with you, which is a big red flag -- thankfully, you can recognize this as a sign she’s not interested.
Number 6
She pays more attention to other men (in a group setting)In this scenario, you begin the night as a couple and end up with a group -- at a club or something -- and she spends more time talking to another guy. Unless it’s her brother or business partner, you should be concerned. Not only is she willing to risk losing you to other girls, but she also doesn’t really care about appearing rude. Sure, she may run back to you when it’s time to collect the coats and arrange the cabs home, but it’s clear that her heart isn’t in it, and you should probably cut her loose at this point.A lot of men don’t understand the signs she’s not interested…

Number 5
She avoids intimate settingsWhere she chooses to meet you says a lot. There’s a huge difference between a quiet dinner for two and coffee at lunch. If you ask her out for a romantic dinner and she suggests a lunch date, it might mean that she doesn’t want you to get the impression that your friendship is leading anywhere, particularly the bedroom. Take this avoidance for what it’s worth: it's one of her signs she’s not interested.

Number 4
She hasn’t come near youWhether it’s by conscious decision or not, if she hasn’t made any sort of physical contact with you, such as a brush on the arm or a pat on the thigh, she may have already counted you out of the race. It’s said that women generally know within a few minutes of meeting a man whether they’ll go to bed with him, and if there’s no incidental contact within in the first couple of meetings, the chemistry’s probably not there and she knows it.

Number 3
She doesn't engage in body languageThe body language of a woman who is attracted to you is a telltale sign of interest. Does she play with her hair, mirror your gestures, sit up straight and generally try to look her best around you? No? Then she’s sending out signs she’s not interested.

Number 2
She plays up other girlsThis clue is as blatant as they come, yet men fail to read into this correctly. Unlike men, girls are constantly trying to set up their single friends, especially if they think you’d be a good match. When the girl you think you’re seeing starts to big up a single friend and asks you what you think about her, she’s more than likely trying to shake you off.

Number 1
She doesn’t return your callsPlease, for your sake, take this as one of the major signs she’s not interested and not as an amusing game of cat and mouse. Don’t assume that she lost your number, that she tried to call but the line was busy or any other delusional rubbish like that. There’s nothing sadder than a guy who refuses to take a hint; don’t be him. Sure, you’re thinking: Some girls like persistent men. True, but they won’t really respect these men in the end. Don’t get played like this.

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Top 10: More Signs You've Been Single Too Long

There is a certain luxurious freedom that comes with being single; you are free to do whatever you like, come and go as please, and you answer to no one. But indulging in that independence for too long can change a man, and usually not for the better. Bad bachelor habits can quickly become second nature and you can lose your motivation or, even worse, your edge. Like a job applicant with gaps in his resume, your periods of “liberty” raise big red flags with potential partners. Being single for too long is a downward spiral that can leave a guy sad, lonely and celibate.We’ve all seen dudes start to slide down this slippery slope, and it ain’t pretty -- because of this we've already looked the Top 10 Signs You've Been Single Too Long. And it's a little disheartening that we have to revisit the topic, but it seems we need to once again look at the top 10 clear signs that might mean you’ve been single a little too long -- heed the warning. If some of them hit close to home, it’s probably time to reevaluate. Unless, of course, a future filled with long, lonely nights eating pork rinds while watching scrambled porn with your obese cat sounds good.

No.10 - You assume you repulse all women
When a girl walks by and smiles, most guys take it as an ego-boosting compliment. However, being single for a prolonged period can start to wear on your confidence. Before you know it you start assuming these flirtatious glances are really smirks at your expense, probably aimed at your frumpy hair or bad outfit.Confidence is one of the most important things a girl looks for in a guy. Losing confidence often happens when you are out of the game for too long, and attracting anyone (let alone someone you are actually interested in) will be difficult.

No.9 - You develop bad eating habits
It takes a lot of effort to cook for one, and falling into the age-old trap of eating like a bachelor is easy. It’s also really unhealthy and kind of gross. If your cupboards are filled with food that can be cooked in less than five minutes, you’ve probably been on your own for too long.It doesn’t take much to set you on the right path. Head to the grocery store for a big order and shop for the basics like rice and pasta, pick up a spice rack and invest in cookbooks that specialize in simple meals for one. It might be easier to just pop a dinner into the microwave, but when it comes time to cook for a potential girlfriend Hungry-Man Classic Fried Chicken Dinner isn’t going to cut it. Practice the art of cooking and your dry spell will end faster than you can boil up some Kraft Minute Rice.

No.8 - You gush about your feelings to women
What’s another sure sign that you’ve been single for too long? You answer your female acquaintances’ small talk questions like, “How are you doing?” with long, emotional diatribes on your lonely single life. Even that cute barista making your morning coffee can be overwhelmed with deep, personal insights as you desperately search for some female compassion.You shouldn’t bottle up all those sentiments, just learn to pick and choose who hears them and when you let them out. See a shrink or call your mom, but just make sure you don’t try to woo a girl with your emotional ramblings.

No.7 - Your dating standards plummet
It would seem that going without action for too long lets certain chemicals build up in a man’s brain. Because much like beer, the concentration can build up and soon enough the dumpy girl down at the video store or the 40-year-old cougar at your local watering hole starts to look pretty damn good.It’s important to be conscious of this transformation. Failing to do so can result in being stuck in a relationship with the kind of girl who would normally make you shudder. Worse yet, you’re then blacklisted as the guy who once dated the bucktoothed, moustachioed, hobbit girl. Keep your chin and your standards up, and the right girl will come along.

No.6 - You get a cat
It’s perfectly reasonable for anyone forced to go without companionship for a long stretch of time to seek friendship in a pet. But before you go running off to the pet store in search of camaraderie, there is one immutable fact you need to consider: Girls think that guys who own cats are weird.Instead, consider getting a dog. They’re cute, loyal and seldom nag you to get your feet off the table or put out the garbage. Better yet, Fido acts like a veritable chick magnet and will help bust you out of your rut quicker than you can say, “Fetch.”

No.5 - You surf mail-order bride sites "out of curiosity"
Envisioning a lonely, solitary future can drive some men to take very desperate measures like ordering a bride off the internet rather than facing the prospect of cooking and cleaning for themselves forever.Stay in a slump long enough and you might justify having a little look around on one of these sites. “How bad could it be?” you might say. “She’ll be grateful for all I’ve done for her, she won’t know anyone here so she won’t leave me, and if she is even half as good-looking as this picture, I’m set!” This kind of rationale will inevitably leave you trapped in a dead-end relationship, heartbroken, that much poorer, and quite possibly the laughing stock of your community.

No.4 - You look at female friends as potential girlfriends
Complete strangers are ignoring your advances, speed dating takes too long, your computer is too slow for internet dating; so what’s left? Your friends, of course. They like you enough to hang out once in a while, so is it such a stretch to take it to the next level?In most cases, the answer is yes. The girlfriend boat sailed away long ago and she probably looks at you more like a brother than a potential bed buddy. Not only that, but chances are you haven’t been on your best behavior around her in the past, so all that farting, sexist humor and whoring around you’ve done in her presence gives you quite a bit of baggage to start off with. It’s understandable that you would start to consider these girls as potential girlfriends, but you are probably much better off keeping them as girl friends.

No.3 - You play too many video games
Hey, getting your fill of video games while you are single is a good idea. When you do eventually hook up with a girl there’s a good chance your gaming days are over. However, putting in endless hours of Wii antics a night is bad for your body, your brain and your chances of ever getting laid again.It isn’t just video games that single guys will overdose on: It’s easy for bachelors to fall into the boozing, sports-watching, golfing-any-time-you-want lifestyle that drives girls crazy. It’s hard to break these hedonistic ways, but these are the sacrifices you’ll have to make if you don’t want to end up sad and alone.

No.2 - You consider your mother's dating advice
It is hard-coded in a mother’s DNA to try and help their single sons find a date. Unfortunately, that usually involves her best friend’s hairdresser’s cousin who ends up being a hefty, hairy spinster with buzzing ovaries. So, relenting to mommy’s matchmaking prowess is definitely a step backward.That isn’t to say you should completely ignore this rich source of potential girlfriends. Instead, give your mom a list of attributes you look for in a girl and let her use that to judge her extended network of ladies accordingly. This way, your mother still gets to meddle in your love life without wasting your time or the time of her cousin’s therapist’s 300-pound, bowlegged sister.

No.1 - You Google old flames
Thanks to the internet, a quick little snapshot of just about anyone’s life can be found simply by Googling their name. So if you find yourself up late at night typing an ex-girlfriend's name into the search box, wondering what she's been up to and hoping maybe, just maybe, you guys could work out your decade-old differences, you should stop immediately and take a long, cold shower.More recently, networking sites like Facebook and MySpace have taken cyber-stalking to a whole new level. These personal-page sites offer a glimpse into your exes’ social life complete with pictures, diaries and more. It’s OK to look (morbid fascination is only human), but don’t attempt to contact her unless you don’t mind being tagged a shameless, creepy stalker.

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Top 10: Signs You're Too Good For Her

The only thing worse than having a job is looking for a job. Much the same can be said about dating. Men too often put up with a lot of crap from women just to save having to start looking again. In our minds, that shouldn't be the case. The longer a man is in this situation, the more he will grow accustomed to the drudgery, leading him to stay in the relationship far longer than its expiration date.Whether you suspect that you’re in this situation or you know it for a fact, we’re here to introduce you to the top 10 signs you’re too good for her -- and really need to find someone better.
No.10 - You're always dumbing down conversations around her
And it's not just her -- it's her entire social universe. Her friends, her family and her coworkers all seem to have an extremely limited vocabulary, one that contains more four-letter expletives than a U.S. Army boot camp. If your cat can match her wit, it’s one of the signs you’re too good for her.

No.9 - She f*cks like a porn star
Sure, we all have those fantasies, but if your woman is taking you into uncharted territory that has serious repercussions for personal safety, there's a good chance it's a sign you're too good for her. No limits or boundaries in the intimate sphere means serious problems with self-respect and control in general. Sure the sex will be mind-blowing, but you’ll never know where she’s been or even how she learned her maneuvers, which can only mean one thing…

No.8 - None of your friends like her
Your friends don't like her and they seem to have independently verified, double-blind proof, that she's awful. You've spent a lot of time cultivating your social circle to serve as just this type of guard when you're in completely over your head, so trust your safety net. If she can't make simple conversation with your friends, it's a sign you're too good for her.

No.7 - You're always encouraging her
If, on a regular basis, you find yourself encouraging your girlfriend to go out and really experience life outside the couch or mall, you're in all likelihood too good for her. There are certain people for whom ambition or enthusiasm for the future are just plain anathema. You're not going to be her catalyst and all you're doing now is wasting valuable energy and focus that you should be spending on your own life.Move on.

No.6 - She can't pay for anything
When it comes time to pick up the check for a dinner, a movie or just about anything else the two of you are undertaking she is nowhere to be found. There are two types of women for whom this is a problem: The first is just oblivious to the fact that she should actually pitch into the relationship. The second is just without the ability and just doesn't seem to have any income. Life's too short to waste time on either of them.

No.5 - She's amazed by what you take for granted
At a certain point in life, certain realities set in and some things are just taken for granted. After college, a paycheck certainly falls into this category. If your girlfriend is dumbstruck by your ability to garner income, you're staring into the abyss of someone who cannot hold a job. This may be a warning sign of future problems.Other things that she’s awestruck by include paying bills, utilities or credit cards on a monthly basis. These should all let you know you're too good for her.

No.4 - She has poor hygiene
If you've noticed on numerous occasions that there is a certain unpleasant odor emanating from your betrothed, it may be time to move on. Some people are merely untidy while others endanger your health. You can try mentioning in passing that there seems to be something amiss, but by and large, you're going to be facing a recurring and uphill battle if you want her to change.

No.3 - She is devoid of natural curiosity
The universe is a strange and mysterious place. Every day you come across phenomena that nearly cry out for further explanation. At least you thought so, until you met your current girlfriend. If you've been together for a while and you've never heard her mention travel or a book she has read, you're in trouble. Conversations based upon first-hand experience from your day are both powerfully limiting and dull.

No.2 - She gets into trouble with the law
There is a time when authority figures are challenged and boundaries are defined. It's called adolescence. It's when your juvenile record can be sealed and expunged. If she's still shoplifting or finding herself on the business side of a DUI conviction, that's just reckless and is endangering your future. It shows that she hasn't developed a sense of what is right or wrong, nor does she have any respect for the possessions of others.

No.1 - Her best asset is her looks
Relationships are a growing concern. You're supposed to find other qualities that endear her to you beyond the initial physical attraction. If you haven't found anything like that and in fact have found many qualities that the good looks are covering up for, then you're too good for her. You need to move on and find someone else. If you don't, you're selling yourself short. Strike out in a new direction and find someone who is both physically attractive as well as your equal or better in the other 98% of life.

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Top 10: Sign Language Compliments

Women love compliments. They live for them, yearn for them and sometimes even fish for them. Why do they pine for voiced appreciation so badly? Probably because, for men, giving a compliment is as natural as not hitting the bowl rim while peeing or going an hour without thinking about sex -- it’s impossible. (See: I just thought about sex.)A woman would love to hear a man compliment her on the way she looks, how funny she is and how interesting her thoughts are. How would she feel if she got that compliment in the form of sign language?Sign language is easier than it looks. Just a few minutes and a guy can master hundreds of sweet things to say to his partner.Here are some simple sign language compliments to learn that will not only score you points with your woman, but show it is possible to teach an old dog some new tricks (except that peeing issue -- that’s going to take practice).
No.10 - "You look beautiful."
It’s a no-brainer that women love to be complimented on the way they look -- especially because of the amount of time, effort and money they put into making themselves look so good. You’d be surprised how many guys fail to notice or even say a word. A simple compliment about how great she looks is the perfect way to get things going on a good note. Give her the sign that she looks fantastic the moment she walks in the door

No.9 - "Your hair looks great."
Men don’t realize how much it costs for a woman to get her hair done. It doesn’t matter if it’s cutting it, coloring it or even blow-drying it, hair is the first thing women attend to when getting ready for a date. She has spent hours on getting her hair to look like she hasn’t spent hours on it, so sign off a quick compliment about how great her hair looks.

No.8 - "You have an amazing smile."
Actually getting her to smile is going to be your first goal -- try saying something witty at least once. Once she flashes the pearly whites, let her know how amazing her smile is with this simple sign. Women take as much pride in their teeth these days as they do their hair and nails. A simple compliment about her smile will get her to smile more, even when you crack your next dumb joke.

No.7 - "Do you work out?"
Women struggle with their body image. Even if they look fantastic and treat their body like a well-oiled machine, women still think their physiques need improvement in certain areas. Let her know her body looks fantastic with this hand gesture. If she says yes, apologize for asking such an obvious question. If she says no, tell her she has a body most women would die for. It’s a body you’d die for, but in a different way (don’t sign that).

No.6 - "I like the way your mind works."
A woman loves compliments about her mind almost as much as compliments about her appearance -- they show a guy is paying attention to more than just her curves. Drop in a simple sign about liking the way her mind works during a conversation and she will know that you are not only paying attention to what she has to say, but really letting it sink into that normally thick male skull.

No.5 - "You're definitely the hottest of your group."
This is a tough compliment to pull of in any language -- American sign language or plain old English -- but drop it at the right time and a woman will turn as red as her glass of Merlot. Women love their friends, but there is always a quest to be the best-looking one in the group -- it usually goes unspoken. Wait for the moment she is discussing her little clan or retelling a tale about one of their trips out on the town to drop this sign that she is definitely the best-looking woman in the group of lovely ladies.

No.4 - "You crack me up."
Every woman thinks she is hysterical. She believes she’s the funniest one among her friends -- it’s like being the thinnest contestant on The Biggest Loser. Some woman are actually funny and if your woman is quick with quip or the queen of one-liners, give her this sign to tell her she is pretty damn funny. Make sure you’re actually laughing while throwing out the sign -- it really sells it.

No.3 - "I'm having a great time."
Women want to know that the men they’re with are having a good time. They don’t want to have to come right out and ask (unlike men, who ask every 10 minutes -- back off!). Sign to her during a lull in the conversation that you are having a great time and follow it up with a smile or innocent little touch on the hand or arm. It will ease the situation and she will relax.

No.2 - "That is a great outfit."
The outfit she is wearing was the 800th clothing option for the evening. She put it on and took it off no less than 20 times. Sign that you love her outfit and it shows you are not only paying attention to the way she gets dressed for these meetings, but that her choice was a wise one (even though many of the 800 would have been fine). Make sure to go as far as to pick out an exact piece of clothing to highlight. The shoes are always a smart choice.

No.1 - "I could talk to you all night long."
This is obviously a lie. No guy wants to talk all night long. Hell, no woman wants to talk all night long, but it’s an incredibly nice thing to say. Give her this sign that you would love talking to her all night and she might throw you a sign that says: “Screw talking, let’s get to some action.” It’s not a hand signal but you will know when it happens.

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Top 10: Ways To Get Her Thinking Of You

Every guy wants to make a lasting impression on the woman he’s into. If she’s not thinking about you when you’re not around, then odds are she’s thinking about some other guy. Here are 10 tips you can use immediately to stand out from the crowd of men hitting on her every day.
No.10 - Use "little things" to woo her
There are a ton of “little things” that women look for to help them make big decisions about what kind of man you are. They instantly tell women whether or not you are worthy of a second thought. Maintaining eye contact, strong posture, not fidgeting; all of these are great things for you to pay attention to. By the way, women make these decisions on a subconscious level. They don't look at a guy, then say to a friend: "Well, he maintained eye contact when I first looked at him, then he held his head up high in a dominant posture, so, I'm going to give him a chance." Practice these simple steps and a woman will naturally want to spend more time with you.

No.9 - Break the ice online
Women aren't interested in being bored to tears by some guy who says: "Hi, here's my profile, please let me know if you're interested in knowing more." They want a challenge, they want electricity and they want someone who can hold their interest. So, be cocky, funny and playful. Say something like: "Saw your profile and I think you deserve a chance to get to know me. I think we could get along well. If you are interested, (which I know you will be) drop me a line, and if you sound as interesting as your profile says I might write back. " Women aren't interested in finding another friend when it comes to dating and romance. They want someone who makes them feel attraction.

No.8 - Get tons of dates
When guys get a woman’s number, we often start to feel weird about turning right around, talking to another woman, and getting her number too. We don't want to be seen as a "player" or insincere. My advice? Get over it. If you enjoy talking to a woman, and you'd like to get her number and go talk to other women, just say: "Here, write down your e-mail and number. I'm going to get back to being social." Women will see you as more interesting if you are talking to all of the women at the party.

No.7 - Get her number easily
Most guys are very nervous about approaching and starting conversations with women. However, if you can just realize that women want to meet men, and that they want men to approach them, it makes you consider that women probably want guys who aren't acting nervous and insecure. So, be direct and use what I call the "One Compliment" approach. Try saying, "Hi, you are... [pause]... beautiful and I had to take a moment and meet you." The pause is priceless. Look directly into her eyes as you talk -- and as you pause. This communicates that you're not afraid of her. Make small talk for a minute, then ask for her number. Easy.

No.6 - Go to a physical level
It’s important that you learn how to go from one stage to the next with a woman. Let’s say you’re at a bar or club and you meet a girl you really like and you start kissing. You can say, “Hey, come with me," and then take her hand and lead her to another part of the club or bar, or take her to the dance floor (or some combination), and then start kissing again. Then say: "Hey, I'm going to this other bar, come along with me." Once you're there, you continue all of the way until closing, when you say: "Hey, let's keep talking; this is fun. Give me a ride home..."

No.5 - Go to a physical level - take two
A woman wants to feel that things are developing naturally, not that you are just trying to get her into bed as fast as you can. If the evening unfolds in a normal, natural way, and you can progress from one level to the next, you'll do very well and go far. Why do you lead her to another part of the club and then take her somewhere else? Physically leading a woman is very powerful, and leaving together/showing up somewhere else together changes things. When you arrive at the new place, even though you're the same two people who just met, you're now together at the new place. And when you suggest continuing to talk, and her giving you a ride home (or some variation), it's not like saying: "Come shag me." You're making it clear that you want to spend time with her, and it leaves the possibility of anything happening open.

No.4 - Be more than just a friend
When a woman says, "I only like you as a friend" or "I've been hurt, so I want to take this slow" or "I like you so much, I don't want to lose you as a friend" -- or any of the million variations of these things -- it usually means that you're not doing the things it takes to create attraction. She doesn't feel it for you. And if she doesn't feel it, then there are no shortcuts, my man. Stop being such a "nice" guy, and start doing the things you're learning from me to spark some chemistry.

No.3 - Reverse your role
One of the best ways to tease a woman -- and amp up the attraction -- is to use "reverse gender stereotypes." If a woman says, "Give me your number" you can say: "Look, I'm not that easy... Don't think that just because I give you my number that I'm going to go out with you or sleep with you." Or, if you're talking to a woman at a bar and the conversation is going well, you can say: "OK, let's just cut to the chase: Are you going to offer to buy me a drink or what?" Attractive women instantly connect with the humor because you're turning around situations that they have had happen to them all of the time and making something funny out of them.

No.2 - Know when not to tease
Playfully teasing a woman is a great way to show you’re not at all intimidated by her. It’s not about hurting a woman, making her feel bad or being abusive in any way. But, there are times when you shouldn’t tease, like when you’re getting physically intimate. Most people let their emotional guard down during the process of having sex, and it's probably not a good time to tease and bust on a woman. That's my two cents on the subject.

No.1 - Keep her once you get her
I think that too many guys make the mistake of assuming that it's all about getting the girl, and they put far too little emphasis on keeping a great girl once they find one. The fact is, until you're in a situation where you've found a great woman who you'd like to keep in your life, you won't realize just how important it is to know how to keep her. Let’s say a woman you really like tells you she’s thinking about seeing an ex-boyfriend of hers. Instead of freaking out, tell her she has your blessing to check it out. Tests like this one can be a pain, but this is reality, and we have to deal with it when it shows up. I've been in many situations with women where I've felt like a jealous, insecure Wussbag myself -- I get it. If you’re prepared, you’ll pass the test and keep the girl you really want.


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